“Wanna bumble with the Bee, Huh?“ My favorite female rapper Lil’ Kim who is a beast, wrote that line. I still laugh at those that thought they would dethrone her. Just like I knew she would, she’s stood the test of time… A1 in my book. That’s slang people. There was a Super Moon kicking off the new year…now how freaking cool is that? Lil’ Kim is a Cancer, which is perfect for my little talk of the Moon. Sovereignty…What do you know about it? I pay homage to who I like, giving props, deserved. My favorite female, MC (rapper) that inspires me. So naturally, for me, it’s certainly, a Big MommaThang. Wink.
A new moon for a new year, representing a new beginning. To me, the ending and the beginning of a matter, are all the same…it’s all about perception. A release. Letting go of the old, to welcome in the new. The new moon falls in the Zodiac of Capricorn, the Sea Goat, hardworking (initiate) to me. Go look it up yourselves and see what you come up with. I have my own interpretation on things. Y’all will have to come up with your own. Don’t just take my word on it.
Anyway, I’m still on my time out, giving myself all that love that I put out into the Universe. Capricorns represent hard work. Emotional as all get up, just like my Cancers which is why I love them so. But mostly, I respect the duality, they work hard just because they love it..a true gift from the Divine. I understand what it is to create and build, so I’m never shocked at why I attract those with a strong work ethic, along with those moving as Pikas, that steal and scavenger off the intellectual work of others, knowing stolen, creative content isn’t theirs…No matter which way, they’ve tried to repackage it. Silly rabbits. Smh. All led by Divine Orchestration…And me, understanding this one thing, accepting order, as is…for now. Smile.
Anywhoo, since I promised to keep this short and sweet…I will. Reminding all, that nothing done in the dark, shall remain unseen. The Sun brings illumination, which produces necessary growth, to those who obfuscate. I’ve grown much through my sufferings and have lots to share. But for Now, it’s the time to simply be grateful. Can you think of one thing you’re grateful for? I’m exceptionally grateful for my shadow and all it had to teach me about my self….are you comfortable with yours yet? Read the article, “Self” link here, Self A lot of us have done or are doing our Shadow work. Keep going. Be bold. Stand in your truth, bump whomever doesn’t agree with you. They don’t matter. Do you, unapologetically. Read the article, “Unapologetically You” link here, Unapologetically You My faith saved me…and, Yours will save you. Look in to the many wonders of the Moon and you’ll discover why I choose the title, 13 moons, it’s good stuff. Research it. Happy learning people.
Now relax guys, everything is going, just as it should. Release the old, make room for your new. None of what many had planned, will work…(another gift from the Universe)..because Nothing will stop Destiny. Move forward regardless, be of good cheer…and overcome it all. Be true to thy Self, with Self Love. Read self love here, https://triddykat.com/self-love Capricorns and Cancers are extremely beautiful to me, for so many reasons. Polarity is inevitable…and, it’s gorgeous.
Step your butts upand Lead. Life is good people…quit complaining.
I remember as a little girl, I’d walk around the block stop in the middle, at a house…next door, from where friends, Kenny and Tammy lived. I think it was the Leslie family. All I know is there lived my angel. An old soul, whom I loved dearly. I didn’t even know her name. Yet, to me, she was an angel.
Every chance I’d get I’d stop at her gate, and say, “Hi Grandma” and she would stop whatever it was that she was doing to come down to talk to me. Although, we were basically strangers, she was so sweet that I immediately fell in love with my make believe, Grandma. Our faces lit up whenever we saw one another. I’d stop at her gate to talk, bringing her whatever flower I’d pick before reaching her gate. Which she always graciously accepted. Something old souls understand, is the power of love. It’s the only thing real.
It’s funny how the very young and old somehow knew instinctively, how much our soulsneeded one another, while the people in between seemed to have forgotten. Grandma and I, were, Old Souls.
Grandma was probably the first person, I recall calling me, an old soul. That’s what elders, call children, who are wise beyond their years. They’d say things like, “Katrina, you have surely been here before.” I fell in love with her Spirit instantly, which was absolutely beautiful to me. As a child, I just wanted love and she gave it, free of charge…And, although she was a stranger, she was my Grandma…whom, I loved dearly. A kindred spirit, just two old souls, chopping it up. It was as if, we recognized one another from another lifetime and were catching up. Old souls.
Each time, I went to my friend’s house or to the store, I’d eagerly stop by, just to say, “Hi.” This elderly woman, with the face of an angel, gave a child, needing love, love daily. Often, I think of my make-believe, Grandma and smile. I wonder if she knew, just how important she was to a little girl, that decided to stop at the gate, of an older woman and just begin to chat. She became my friend, another old soul. Our gap in age didn’t matter, our hearts meshed because we were old souls.
I’m so grateful that my make believe, Grandma never shooed me away. Whenever she couldn’t come outside, she’d talk to me through the screen, in her upstairs window. That was fine with me. I’d yell up, “Hello” to my friend, letting her know she was highly thought of, always. My friend knew by instinct, I needed something she possessed…it was her great big, loving heart, that made room for One more…Me. She gave me an ear and I loved her for it. Old souls recognizing one another, in this lifetime. How amazing?!
If you’re lucky, you’ll encounter an old soul this lifetime…if you do, consider it a gift from the Gods. Please don’t exploit it…you’re to embrace and accept that love given freely, with no strings attached. That’s unconditional love. A gift to you. Nothing earned or manipulated. A Treasure. Old souls, giving love, to whomever needs it…because love is the only thing, real.
When a true friend passes on, there is a piece of you broken, that tries to come to terms with it…
I took a really long time to even mention this because I wanted to respect my girl Precious’ family and allow them private time to grieve and start the healing process…and, I got the ok from the oldest, first.
This is to that friend that I thought I’d pull up in front of her house this Summer with and we’d kick it, friend…who I went to school with, who invited me to all kinds of shing dings and who loved to sing (that could really sing her butt off) could dance and have goofy fun with friend…to my beautiful, big-hearted childhood friend, Precious.
Triddy Kat– My childhood friend, Precious chilling at home in Hollis, Queens.
My voice of reason, when I found out about a cheating boyfriend…that could talk me out of catching a case, friend…that“I’m down for you girl” friend, that didn’t blink or hesitate when I called and said, “I want Quasia in my wedding as my flower girl, friend.”
That loving friend that could snap if you tried her but always had your back, friend…who would sit on the phone with me for hours calling from College (being homesick) just because it was me on the line, friend. My childhood homie that loved to laugh just as much as me, my from around the way, friend.
Man, from all of our many rides to Brooklyn or to 40 pjs, you were always my girl, ready to go, friend. The telling me,“No Trina, we’re not doing that but we can do this, friend.” I’d be pissed but you reminded me that Friends don’t sit back and watch their friends self-destruct…that true voice of reason, friend.
I’m so trying not to cry and finish writing this…I’m guilty of thinking I could always just walk up the street and talk like no years had passed between us, friend.
Boy, I still smile thinking back on your 16th birthday coming down the block with just a handful of us there to celebrate it with you waiting on your gift…which was a“brand new” -Red ribbon on top- Light Blue, 740, “Volvo”…that we literally rode everywhere.
I miss you so much Precious and knew just trying to write this, “I love you so much” could make me cry but oh well. I did it PBoogie, I finally gathered the strength to say,“You will certainly be missed by me forever but you will never, ever, be forgotten.”
Triddy Katš
Triddy Kat– “Precious “ (and her mom)…two beautiful women that were SUPER supportive of me, growing up.
This is my,“Forget Me Not” to my since we were little girls, friend,“P Double.”
Whom may be gone but will never be forgotten.
I wrote this for some sort of closure…And, Precious’ oldest daughter, Laquasia for her Birthday…back in December of 2020.
Woke up today with you on my mind P, hearing certain songs you’d sing. Miss you much. XOX
Did you know, even if you were promised a pot of Gold that doesnāt mean you will get it if youāre not willing to fight for it? Yāall know the saying,“God helps those that helpthemselves.” So do you really think the false prophet wonāt step forward and offer you his cup of Foolās Gold? You can bet your butt he will. So how do you get around the false prophet? My advice: You must,Ā āTry the Spirit, by the Spirit.”Ā
Ascended Master Jesus told us, “Look at the fruit, the TREE bears”ā¦Only youĀ know the person offering you that cup. WhatĀ type of fruit are they bearing? That’s the TREE. Do they walk in integrity? Do they have morals or do they do shady sh*t behind peopleās back? YouĀ donāt need me to tell you if that tree is bearing bad fruit or not. Are you amongst the honorable or are you in a den ofĀ thieves? Are they vipers or just you?Ā It is important that we all, look at that Trees around us. What kind of fruit, does your tree bear? When I didn’t like the fruit, I simply stopped planting the seeds, it started with me…and, it starts with you. You up for it?
I know it’s not easy to accept, what Spirit shows us, about the people in our lives..or ourselves. It is crucial that we heed Spiritās warnings. Our lives are depending on us, listening to the warning, that Source gives us about the people, we continue to surround ourselves with. If they are on a low vibration, then, you are likely in that low vibration too. The frequencies must match, (resonate). There is no high-low, it’s either high, high and low, low. If not, you would feel uncomfortable around certain people because the vibration is off. The frequencies donāt match. This is why people cheat, they are no longer resonating at the same frequency…(we call it attraction) but they’re either too afraid to change or end it. That’s a whole lesson on staying, where you both are no longer feeling the vibe. Also, it’s what I like to call, “Trees.”
Let’s say, the whole family is toxic and you ignore it and you keep playing with them. Spirit will allow you to start losing it all. Low vibes are attached to the curse. Divine intervention will try to get your attention, showing you, that you are heading down the wrong path. or, Could you be the wrong tree? If so, change lanes. Stop manipulating people and stop letting people, manipulate you. If not, it can cost you like it cost me. For example, had I paid attention to the signs, from the Divine, I would have stayed gone, when I first walked away. Instead, I allowed corrupt family members to convince me to give it another go.
My spirit knew better, itĀ was time to go, so I left… but I was also still toxic, unhealed…so, I allowed toxic family back in, there was a trap set for me. Hence, a custody battle for my kids…that was a trap.Ā Self Love would’ve made me, set healthy boundaries and stay gone. See the low vibe I was on? I was manifesting more drama out of my need or lack consciousness. That’s why there was nothing legal about the handling of that case.Ā All low vibrations beings, all doing what we do. Once again, I was ignoring Source warnings about going after my wants but using no discernment. I could have avoided all the bs. Read the article, “ENOUGH” click link here, https://triddykat.com/enough
They were bearing bad fruit. Yet; I ignored it…because I, too, was on that low frequency. Being deceitful, telling half truths, then playing victim and left wondering why I’m connecting to that shady sh*t…everywhere I go. That’s slang, guys. I could have stayed put in NYC but I ignored the TREE and came back South. So instead of taking heed to Source, I went on ignoring the signs because they were family, (attachment) which lead me here…to fight a nasty custody battle. Source was warning me, to get my self under control but when you want, what you want, you will ignore Source and all of the red flags. They were all there. Yet, I still ignored Source. Now, I know to pay attention to the tree and the fruit it bears.
A person that lies, cheats, manipulates or steals energy is low vibration. That is not good fruit for me…soĀ now I know thatās a trap. The lesson in it for me was, “I was once moving just as shady.” We get caught up in “Oh, I was good to him & he dogged me.” Yeah but were you good to everyone in your life? Heck no. So that’s your karmic debt coming due Dear…take your lumps like a big girl, sweetie. This is chess, not checkers guys. It’s life. It never comes to collect on pay day when you’d expect it. That’s to help you, learn you. It’s designed to hinder one from moving forward. See the part you play, in your own life. You’re no angel Dear. We all have a shadow. Welcome to yours. The enemyĀ isnāt thisĀ monster we like to believe it is. It can also be us. It’s an energy to stop one from fulfilling his or herĀ calling in life. Please know that those on a lower vibration are there to help you stray off your path.Ā Take time to see what type of tree it is…Look at its fruit…and, most importantly, please take the time to look at your own fruit.
This holiday season many will be tested, make sure you arenāt eating and drinking with those that you know operate, on a low vibration. You know how that will turn out. You must look at the tree and its fruit. What is your vibration like? It’s not just the family, that is messy… so are you. Hell, I know I was. If the family stays in some sort of drama, you already know to stay your *ss home. You go because you, too, love the drama. Or else you’d Cook, make your own meal..heck, go get you some Chinese food, etc.Peace of mind is priceless.
Admit your own flaws, so you can fix you, not someone else. Learn to listen to Source and see what you will be lead to, Divinely. It can save you or someone you love. Stop being where you know, you donāt belong. Stay your nosey, gossiping butt, out of everyone else’s relationships… that’s why your own relationship, is likely, not working well for you, either. So you deflect because you don’t want to do the real work, on yourself. Grow up. Gather with those that love themselves and walk in love. They will be delighted to see you and spend time with you..once you heal. Ain’t nobody inviting your messy butt over, if you stay in other folks business. Period. That’s called a hater. Talking about the kids and everybody business but skips their own. No Bueno. Share what you got going on. More slang. If you don’t all that other stuff is a trap. Stay away from drama and foolishness. 48 Laws of Power, avoid the unlucky..Drama is usually connected to the unlucky.
One more thing, donāt think the low vibes, wonāt find a way to bring the drama to you, when you avoid themā¦so tell them nothing, just have a plan in place, to stay far away from people that feed off drama. They need to heal…and, so do you. Drama is the signature of low vibrational people. All of us need to Grow up, stop people pleasingā¦it will kill you. That’s not selflove. It’s time to wake up guys. No more walking into traps, set by those, you already know…bear bad fruit. You can’t bear bad fruit either, it works both ways. Your partner reflects what you were like at some point in your life. You must pay attention to the trees in your life.
No more feeling guilty for being true to yourself. No more judging it cause you have been close to whatever they act like too. Shady, messy, gossiping and deflecting. Go fix you, not them, realizing that every man has his own lot to bear, that’s self love. And, you will still need to do things decent and in order…soon as you do it foul. Here comes that lesson again, be it in a new person or the same, doesn’t matter the Universe is infinite…how long you got? Smile.
No more allowing others to guilt trip you over mistakes, just get that mess right and remember how it felt, when you were the foul one doing all the shady, conniving sh*t to others.. before you healed. Speak your piece, in love and truth unless you are among people, too immature, to have adult conversations with you…those people are dangerous. Tread lightly. That’s a red flag that it’s toxic and will become a major lesson in Self Love, should you continue to engage. So Don’t. Those are more trees. Always choose love. Read the article, “Self Love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love
Everyone is allowed to change lanes, in life, as often, as necessary…Especially, once they begin to see that the path they’re on is not right for them anymore. I’ve done it plenty of times because I’ve messed up plenty of times, that’s life. I fix what I can then move on. I will always do me. I stop explaining to people. I validate myself. Therefore; I keep my power. I stop, heal and reflect. Never be afraid to change lanes. These are all only life lessons. Did you learn from it and make the necessary corrections? Good, sincerely apologize if you still can.
Do what you can to make it right and then, move on. They either forgive you or they don’t. Stop taking it personal everything ain’t always about you. That’s the mindset of a Narcissist. Grow the hell up. No more letting what others think keep you stuck in falseness. Stop doing bs and watering down, the real you. When you know better, your job is to do better. Period. Yes, that’s slang. Others, either get it or they don’t, that is not your problem…only how you treat others is. I’ve learned to lay those burdens down. I’m doing me, I ain’t got time to study you, Boo. Life is too short. Maybe, you need to go plant you a tree or something. For real. Slang.
Happy HolidaysĀ yāall. Source always got y’all back but some of y’all must learn to useĀ common sense and your spiritual gifts too. Slang.Ā Mind who you eat and drink from. I won’t even speak on being aware of who you engage in sex with guys…that’s another article, titled: “Beyond the Veil” If you’ve read that you know dark magic is real people. Read the article, “Beyond the Veil ” click link here, https://triddykat.com/beyond-the-veil
I learned a lot, the hard way…aka, experience. I’m sharing it with y’all. So please be wise, always ask Source for discernment. Heed the warnings. Protect your energy, people and work on YOU…it matters.
**No drinking and driving…if you are buzzing (slang) please let someone sober drive, stay where you are or take a “Lift or Uber,” Happy Holidays Folks. Enjoy yourselves.
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Healing of the Mind, Body and Soul is what I stress because “Self-Love” is the keyto Life. And, Life is better than good, folks. “Oh yes, sir it is.” That’s slang, guys.
Enjoy.
Triddy Kat– Chilling with Gigi (who loves to take pictures) but reflecting, I’m so glad that she loved doing this!
Thereās a saying,āUntil the Lion learns how to write, the story will always glorify the hunter.ā Donāt let others tell your story. Speak your truth and stand in it, firmly. I chose the numbers for this title because of its significance. The end of a major cycle is upon us. Read the article, “Closed” click here, Closed If Astrologers are correct, it started in 1861. Wow, is all I can and will say about that. Please, look it up for yourselves.
One thing, I do know is, I fought like hell, to finish it, to close it…theĀ correct way, this time. It was hard but I must say,Ā āI held my own against many.āĀ Many, that I thought would go with me, into theĀ next chapter of my life, are not. IĀ trust Source andĀ donāt question it anymore. They were the ones causing delay, after delay butĀ thatās just it…they could only cause delays because they can never stop Destiny. They are notĀ Divine…poor things, they are onlyĀ misguided, insidious beings, with much healing needed. SMH. Read the article, “Insidious” by clicking here, https://triddykat.com/insidious
K,TRIDDY KAT, La -“Junior High” aka- Our Middle School, years-I was pissed posing out in the heat, (sweating out my hair)…and its plentiful! Washington, DC. is as humid as NYC.
Strangest thing happened, I am happier and wiser now because of all the delays. I was able to find myself. I took a much needed rest, to re-evaluate my life…And, had it not been for my enemies, I would have never awakened to my TRUTH. I would have continued on the wrong path. I literally transmuted it all and then, I changed lanes. Yup, that’s slang. Their feeble attempts to use chaos magic didn’t work. They coldheartedly, sent conflict and confusion, to try to distract others, from finding out..that they, were trying to hide, that they were actually the ones, stealing from me…it didn’t work.
See, why I stress the importance of healing? It protects one from falling for the illusions. Your enemies will start drama, accuse you of all sorts of lies, create false narratives, and make-up just plain goofy sh*t…all in efforts, to hide or cover up the truth. Don’t fall for it. It’s a distraction. Stand in your truth. Nothing, done in the dark, shall remain hidden. Slow and steady, wins the race. Relax, Source saw it all. No one is getting away, with anything. Remain steadfast, as you walk in integrity. The weak, shall be made strong. Just chill, Divine timing is at hand. Let Source do, what it do. That’s more slang, guys.
I must say…The Divine, couldn’t have planned it better. All of their efforts to stop me, forced me to awaken. Ain’t that like God? The Universe uses everything, people. Nothing, we’ve suffered through, was in vain. It will help others. So never be embarrassed or ashamed to tell your story. Never let the HUNTERS, tell your story. They were the hunters, trying to glorify themselves. It’s not going to happen. Y’all are, as, I am, The Lion. “To GOD, be the Glory”…. “Iām finally home!!“
K, TRIDDY KAT, K-“Junior High” aka -Middle school-The 3K’s, chilling in the shade, my hair was sweated out by now. I was literally tucking, my hair, in my shirt, trying to stop it from sweating out so fast…to prevent it from frizzing up, on me all day! Washington, DC. (The 3K’s)
Iāve recovered all that Iāve lostā¦my true treasure. Me. The journey, I set upon years ago, lead me right back to myself. How freaking cool is that?? Now, I tell all of my so-called enemies, “Thank you, for your help. If it were not for you all, I never would have taken the journey within. Realizing that, was the only way, OUT.” Hot damn, “The Healer, has healed, Thyself!”
My advice to all: “Donāt be upset with or curse the DARKNESSā¦for it is in its stillness, you will know serenity and it is there, you shall encounter, SOURCE.”~Triddy Kat
Predator or prey? Which one are you? Only time will tell. Most swear, they were the prey but if they are honest and look deeper, it is likely, they were truly, the predator. Have you ever had to let someone or something go …and, deep down, you really didn’t want to but y’all both know, that it can’t stay, as it is?
That’s some real challenging mess to face cause they won’t grow, if you don’t release them..you knowing that means “you” have to be the one to do the release…selfishness and ego says,”Hold on”.. but if you hold someone back from becoming great or even greater, Can you really say that’s love? It’s not. Read the article, “Release” clicking link here, Release
Love says, “With or without me, you’re free to move on”…ain’t like that crap doesn’t hurt you too, you just know it’s time..and, that it’s a very necessary process for growth.
Well, I’ve had to do this more than once in my lifetime. It never gets any easier. I couldn’t sleep making that decision. Messed with my peace of mind and all…and, that “clingy energy” I had the most trouble with releasing..I liked being needed. It was my addiction, codependency but it was killing me.
I had to check myself…and, go find balance. Self Love became my antidote. Walking away, when I really didn’t want to was no joke…hell, it was hard but that unhealthy cycle, had to be released…and, it taught me a lot, about myself. It wasn’t pretty. I saw that I needed to heal.
I saw that I was controlling, spoiled and manipulative. I’d do whatever, I felt was necessary to get what I want. I didn’t care who I’d hurt along the way…as long, as I’d reach my intended goal. I thought, “I’m good.” I really wasn’t, I was out of control because I was lost.
The setbacks of a high achiever, is that we are never satisfied. We need new goals to master constantly or we become bored with the mundane in life. One can say, we are actually gluttonous people..borderline ungrateful, but we’re not..we’re just strangely motivated. So be wary of the insatiable appetite. I’ve since learned, it’s to be tempered.
I’m extremely driven but I needed to conquer “temperance and empathy” because I was cold when it came to loving others…now, you can love me but I’m not loving your *ss back. Surface love only but in depth, hell no. Constant betrayal of self, makes one weary of trust.
I can show you some raw emotions but nothing too deep, you ain’t getting beyond a certain point with me or I’m sabotaging us. I was broken, I associated pain with love. I don’t need that sh*t in my life, it will only slow me down and it would create vulnerability in me.
I ain’t about to let you have me weak. I was too foolish to know that love is vulnerability.
Since, I can only depend on me, a weak me, is no good. Whose going to pick me up, should I fall? And, that’s exactly why I fell. The imbalance was too great. I was not allowing anyone in my heart space..that’s imbalanced and its foolish. We all need love. It’s the only thing, real.
I love children because I’m never in survival mode with or around them. I give them all my love & heart freely but no one else. They are the only ones, I make the exception for. Babies and children need that nurturing Mommy mode. I later found out, that I needed that too. I love that side of me and kids, naturally bring it out of me..but it’s my south node, I’ve mastered it already.
I will love you from a distance, but I’m keeping my heart to myself. That way you can’t break or hurt me. See the toxic survival thinking? One can’t live there. It’s an unhealthy space. It allows no place for Source to dwell within, if one’s heart is closed to love. That was the reason for the betrayal in the first place…to get one to close the heart. Don’t fall for that bs. It keeps one stuck, it’s a trap. Using one’s heart, against itself. That’s how one attracts low vibrational beings. That’s why your healing matters. It’s part of one’s protection, along with discernment from Source.
Growing up in a Cold World, in situations, that I had no say so in, created confusion within me.. I had to survive the best way, I knew how…love just wasn’t something, I could afford. Yet, it’s the one thing, I knew, I needed and always wanted. I desperately searched and yearned for love. I finally found it. I, was what I was looking for all along. I gave myself that love I wanted from others. Changed the entire game. I snatched my power back from all of the clowns in my life. Folks disguised as lovers, family and friends. I make ’em all play the back now. I don’t need that fake sh*t in my life. Official tissue, only guys…and Yes, that’s slang. Don’t reward foolishness.
Triddy Kat – I tamed the inner beast…(rocking a bob with no hair color.)
I’m still transforming, it was very painful but it was worth it. Accepting the truth always is. It makes you shed the false self and drop the illusions. Most can’t handle releasing the lie cause they fear they’ll have nothing left to hold on to. I’m here to tell y’all, “That’s a good place to be because it forces one to rebuild on truth or be demolished with the lies.” I had to tame the beast within me…and, go create something different. I did it scared. Self Mastery is a must.
The Universe has blessed me..I finally figured out that Self Love was what I needed. I worked hard, going within and healing me. Then, I finally gave me, what I needed. LOVE…and, trust me when I tell y’all, it’s the best thing ever. It was soooo worth it!!
I wonder how many of y’all reading this, are just like me but just don’t know it yet? I’ll let y’alltell it though. More slang.
Keep shining.
*This was originally, created and written by, “Triddy Kat” on May 21, 2017. Updated, 11/3/21.
How many black women dealing with drug dealers or the street life can admit to this?…That our choices, changed lives. This question came about, from me watching an episode of: Iyanla’s Fix My Life. Our choices have long lasting, rewards or consequences. As women, we must take a serious look, at how we make these choices. It matters. Lord knows, it really does matter.
We all have choices to make…so be mindful, when making them. Negative or Positive.
Black women often “disconnect” from our choices, especially if they’re negative…we like to overlook “how” our choices in men and life, can “cost” our children greatly. A few years back, many could not fathom, why I walked away from a twenty year marriage …it was a story like one, on “Iyanla’s Fix My Life” that I didn’t want, to become my own.
Many years ago, I saw where my life was headed…I went away to college to escape, becoming a “statistic.” That was a conscious decision. I decided early in my life, that I would not end up as a misguided, young black woman. I was taught marriage before children was the way. So, I pursued that path in life but no one told me, that professional isn’t enough, when selecting a mate to have children with. Our choices matter.
Things were great for years, I went professional and figured I had “escaped.” Then, much later down the stretch, that mate, decided to entertain/dabble in a negative lifestyle…that was when I knew, our time together was officially, over. I gave associating with the street lifestyle up, years ago, no way could I let anyone, bring me or my children down a dark path for money, prestige or clout. I had no idea how many jealous women were literally, sticking their nose (and other body parts) in my relationship, behind my back. I’ve since cut off, those women and I will continue to make adjustments, as necessary. Never let others over-step your boundaries, ever. They all know better.
A lot of people don’t connect that their behavior and choices in life, can cost them, their family and friend. Women think “Self-love” is going shopping or pampering themselves at a spa..they’ve got it all wrong. Loving oneself or true “Self-love” is staying out of and to fully stop, engaging in ALL, toxic relationships and behaviors. How are you out here clowning over a man, calling or popping up at his home, creeping with or cutting your girl’s throat to get at a guy, then, claiming, that you walk in self love? Nah boo, your actions prove that you’re still very confused about self love. Read the article, “Self love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love/
Self love won’t allow you to act that way. Nor, would it allow you to compete for, chase after or degrade yourself or another woman for a man, either. I used to be foolish too, that’s when I lacked self love. I get it but I’ve since healed. Have you? No arguing either Sweetie,“If he is with her, let him keep his *ss right there with her, there’s no shortage in men.” Yes, That’s slang guys. SELF-LOVE won’t allow that mud duck behavior…because women with self love know better. More slang.
Women have been programmed to go for “providers” first and foremost but that can be detrimental to ourselves and our children. It’s also a toxic mindset, that we’ve been socially conditioned, basically trained to accept, as normal. If most women were 100% honest, we’d tell you, that we don’t usually marry for love, we usually marry for security. Peep, I didn’t say money is our security…although, for some women, it can be.
Most women feel secure, when in a relationship …and most women, are made to feel insecure, when they’re not in one. That’s some bs but that’s why so many women, go so hard for men (no matter how trifling some are). We’ve got to get our sh*t together, ladies. Plenty are exploiting us, because of our toxic *ss ways and our toxic thinking. I was almost taken out because of mines. It was being used against me in the worst way imaginable. I thank God, I healed, that’s what saved me. I went to Source and only focused on my healing. Nothing came before it. Take it serious, it matters because You, matter. That’s self love, too…our choices.
Every man isn’t a dog, just like every woman isn’t a b*tch. The trick is to be secure within ourselves, in or out of a relationship. How about we go harder for our, self healing, like we go for these men? Lord knows that will help us out tremendously. And, that’s ok, once we know that we need to heal and we are willing to do something about it. Then, we are able to make healthier decisions in selecting our mates. Healing is a choice. It’s always about Choices.
We haven’t been properly trained to see if a person, is safe for ourselves and most importantly, safe and mature enough to have children with..so most women are drowning in regret…yet, no one is addressing this. I literally went through hell, a custody battle dragged out- that never should have legally happened, in the first place…because of so many messy women, involving themselves, where they had no business being. Period. Pair that with me, not fully knowing who, I was having children with. It mattered. We must look deeper, hopefully, before things change. It will make all of the difference. “Know who you breed with.” That’s slang but it’s real.
Now, I’m not knocking anyone..simply sharing an epiphany, on needing to know way more on selecting, whom, we will have our children with, is a must. What if I had taken the time to find out more, earlier on? A person that could cause suffering because of unhealed issues, could be avoided. That type of stuff must be addressed before we decide to have children. It matters. It can spare you (and your children) from the bs, later on. Choices.
No one really taught us anything about what really truly matters. It’s our choices. We didn’t know because our own mothers, didn’t know any better, when they were selecting, our fathers. What if they had been taught the significance of their choices, early on? No one wants children with a person that is just a plain *ss selfish parent/co-parent. It absolutely matters. My mother decided on giving up her child(me) because of the type of man, she was dealing with. That choice, later, forced me, the child, to pay for both, his and her decision. Our choices matter because they can change the lives of others, in negative and positive ways. Be mindful.
Triddy Kat– Growing up…holding my neighbor’s baby at family gathering, I had no kids yet.
Who has truly “taught”us, Sisters how to make “Healthier choices” in life or in selecting a mate?…And, that’s part of why, we have so many bitter black women out here, making excuses for our extremely “dysfunctional” behavior patterns. Mad about those choices, we’ve made. So when are we going to do something about it? It changes, when we decide to change it. Period.
I believe that episode (Iyanla’s, Fix my life) is powerful because so many sisters will be forced to look at the role, we play, as Mothers , modeling inappropriate behaviors before our children.
Now, I understand why so many women stay in toxic marriages because of what was allowed to illegally, be done, to my children and I in court (Fulton County, Ga.). When I decided alone, is better than staying with anyone toxic..I literally, had lots of messy, so-called professional women, come to the aide of toxic men. All helping toxic men, cloak and come up with malicious plans, to purposely, deceive me. It was the “Sistas” that were actively engaged in debauchery. Pray for those distorted feminine energies around you. Leave it to the Divine, while you stay in integrity and character. Trust me, when I tell you that,“What hasn’t come out in the wash, is bound to come out in the rinse.” Slang.
In efforts, to keep me, in toxic relationships because they, themselves, were bitter and unhappy with their own lives because of their choices in life. I call this type of woman, a “Meddling Messy Mary.” Any family, lovers or friends that help toxic people, go after people, should be considered, dangerous also. It is important to severe those ties… and, immediately, pull your energy back from them all. These toxic people feed off your energy…shut them all down. Make them go live off, their own energy, not yours. You are no one’s financial security plan or supply.
Cut the cord. Tell ’em all, “It was all sh*ts & giggles before…but I guarantee that it’s no fun, when the Rabbit’s, got the gun.” Everything happens in Divine Timing. Wait on Source, it only looks like they’d gotten over, they haven’t. Just focus on your healing, the Universe hasn’t forgotten you. Let things align. No one will mock, God…let those that thought they could “Keep living.” Read the article, “Cut ’em Out” link here, https://triddykat.com/cut-em-out/
Stop the toxic cycle. It’s under the curse. We pass that low vibrational crap on to the next generation, if it’s not addressed and healed from. We, as women, must become accountable for our choices. That’s how we change things. We’ve been lied to, what we do or don’t do, to others, in life, matters, later on, in our lives. Choose wisely, it will matter a great deal, later on.
We must become active and vocal, about breaking and stopping, the toxic behavior, beliefs and toxic cycles in our lives. Decide, it ends with us because it does. Read the article, “10:10:10” click link here, 10:10:10 and the article, “Closed” click link here, Closed
Hopefully, youāve all rested during this huge shift and closing out of that last cycle. Boy, do I thank God, about its close. Good riddance cause for me, it was no joke baby, it was a harsh cycle and I canāt wait until I can share it all with you guys! All I will share for now is, “God Is soooo GOOOOOD!!!ā Baby, trust in the Lord yāall, I donāt care what it looks like, The Most High will come through and sh*t on all of those people that thought they had the drop on you. No, they really donāt. Smile and just wink at āem and say, āCongratulations, you’ve played yourselves!ā
So, how many of you, have thought on the word: Cornucopiaā¦and what, it actually represents? It’s defined by Webster’s, as a curved hollow goat’s horn or similarly shaped receptacle, that is overflowing especially, with the fruits and vegetables thatās used as a decorative motif emblematic of abundance. Look at the last word again, abundance. To me, the word, Cornucopia represents abundance, people… it’s you, no matter what it looks like. It’sYOU.
TRIDDY KAT ..in my, cut my hair short with hi-lights phase
Now, yāall know I’m from the hood, so that word, cornucopia also means, it’s that season where we break out the cute coats and know, soon, the Furs will follow, next or whatever. (See pics below). That’s Me.. chilling in many seasons of cornucopia. No worries, All of us will experience seasons of droughtand cornucopia. The trick is, remain true to Self, in all seasons of life. Your integrity will see you through. Source will never fail us. It rains on the just and unjust, alike. Don’t sweat it, learn to ride the wave. Look at the leaves falling off trees, changing colors but knowing, it will be right back on point, by Spring. I’m simply here reminding you…and, so will you. It’s a way of life people and we’re cyclical beings. Adapt.
TRIDDY KAT… in my regular, no hair color phase
Itās a season of plenty. The cornucopia reminds all, that our deeds, based on the seeds we’ve already sown, will be known. Prepare for your harvest. ..And in the hood, we love that time of year. It’s basically that time of year, where we just love to get fresh, (like tax season) in the hood, people. Yes, thatās slang. That cornucopia means, it’s harvest season. Yippee!!
Anyway, let’s look at some of the synonyms of the word, Cornucopia: Abundance, Feast, Plentitude, Plethora, Plenty, Superabundance and Wealth. I donāt know about yāall but I was tested that last cycle…and, I was stripped of all in my last cycle, that’s why I described it as harsh. It was harsh because it was through no fault of my own, in a setting of poverty or living impoverished…straight had me having to get it out the mud, again. It also reminded me, of how strong I actually am. I mean my enemies really did me dirty y’all in that last cycle, they got together and plotted against me, which left me with no home, no car, no money, with no way out and with my back against the wall…but God. I have to say that y’all..”But God” stepped in cause Favor ain’t fair. So I shrugged it all off and harbored no resentment, wiping tears from eyes and moved on. Let the Universe deal with people, so full of envy and spite that they secretly plot against you. That’s not about you, that’s something within them. Your inner light interfaces their inner unhealed, darker self. Don’t take it personal but please remember, around those shady type of people, you are tomove accordingly. Unhealed people are untrustworthy, unreasonable and unsafe.
Source never left or abandoned me. Held me down every step of the way. Almost everyone I knew, deserted me, which had me starting back at zero. It was in my darkest time I realized, although I was alone, I was never truly by myself. Source protected me and kept me through it all. I dusted myself off and started over again and again because my enemies never let up. That was until I remembered to use it all to my advantage. All that they, unjustly, put me through purposely causing me to suffer without cause… I used every bit of their negative energy fueled at me, their jealousy, spite, rage, envy and coveting of my gifts to transmute, myself back into Greatness. No one can stop what God has Blessed…no one and nothing can stop you. I’m amazing, a living testimony. We can’t simply give up. We must believe that no matter what, all things, work together for our good. My enemies taught me how to fight back, spiritually…and I came out swinging, Hot damn. Everything has a purpose. Please believe it! And, yes, that’s more slang, guys.
TRIDDY KAT... enjoying the Fallish, Winter in the A! (another short hair cut, hi-light phase)
So now, I can laugh at those that were used to try to take me down. All I will say. “Sorry, Itās not happening guys. Iām still doing me!ā Me, in an impoverished setting or not, doesnāt change a thing, Iām still me and I know that I know… Source won’t abandon me because I refuse to abandon myself. My thinking is still that of a Megastar, so I used that time, where my enemies enviously, plotted to purposely, place me in a constant state of lack…to encourage myself and remember, that lack is only a mindset. Nothing more. So me, being me, infused time, to heal and reflect on the inner me. I used isolation to self correct…and, now I just shake my head at my so-called enemies. They still don’t get it but whatever, thatās on them. Now, their own journey of self love and self discovery awaits them.
Now, my question to you all is: Are you excited thinking on your harvest? Hopefully, you are. Saturn is no joke and a major life lesson, should have been mastered in that last cycle. Whatever youāve been doing, diligently in the open or behind closed doors, will now be seen, by all. Itās time for our harvest to show up, people..that’s not based on luck guys, it’s the HARVEST. So guys, be happy and smile, prepared for the beautiful harvest. Just donāt let those who werenāt willing to plow that soil with youin lack, be so quick to come in and feast with you, in your season of Plenty. Slow down and check to see, if they’ve really done any of their inner work. Your harvest is way too beautiful, to let haters come back and ruin it, for you, on purpose. Use wisdom, by asking for discernment.
TRIDDY KAT… in my, let my hair grow out long, red hombre hair phase
It’s beautiful outside guys, there’s a slight chill in the air…the most beautifulest time of year, so enjoy it. Yes, that’s slang, guys. Act like we do in the hood, break out your hot sh*t and go do you, unapologetically. That word beautifulest, has me thinking on the rapper, Keith Murray’s hit song, “The Most Beautifulest thing in this world!” Smile. Tough times won’t last always. Things will and do change. It’s all Cyclical. The Gods have been more than good to us all. We’re still in the land of the living. I’ve aligned: Self, God and the Goddess. The Trinity. So just like that, my seasons, change. My advice to all, “Ride the wave and smile until your seasonof Cornucopia, returns.” Nothing in life is truly personal, it’s just…Life. Changing your perspective, changes your life.
Lastly, before I forget,“Did I tell you guys that there is a rap song made about & for me?” Yes, a rap song about me,TRIDDY KAT. It’s literally dedicated and written to and about, Me. I shared with my then lover, how much I love the song,āI Like” by the group, GUYā¦so one day, he creates a track for me,”TRIDDY KAT“, naming it, “I Like” …now how freaking cool is that? It’s things like that, that make me laugh at those that actually thought making me poor or leaving me for dead, could ever stop me..Picture that! Isn’t it just like Source, to use a Hip Hop Artist, to come along and serenade me, showing, proving and declaring his love, to remind me, of who I AM…to rise up like,“The Phoenix from the Ashes” that I am, even while I was broke, busted, disgusted and getting it out the mud. I’m sharing it with y’all here but we donāt have permission for use of that track, by GUY, yet. It’s coming. Oh and how about this? For the cover, since the track was a little explicit, we used that pic of me in a sports bra, thong and some high heels. Relax, I’m married to him, guys. The illusion of SEX sells,people. Get over it. That’s not a nude, just made to look like it. What can I say, I’m a Genius. I will create a way to get it out the mud. I’m my Cornucopia.
Hopefully, the group, “Guy” takes it as the ultimate compliment to their song…“I Like”, which is still my favorite anthem song. But..anyway, get outside and please take the time to think and be grateful for this Beautiful Fall season, upon us…and, that Cornucopiathatās heading your way. What a beautiful time to be alive!! Don’t forget to appreciate it all, no matter what. It’s all good because…it’s all, just your life lessons and what makes you,YOU! So proudly, Own It ALL!!
TRIDDY KAT..in my, letting my hair grow out long, red hombre hair phase..same day as above pic. (Making it harder for the doppelgƤnger to keep using my stuff.)
That Rap, written about me,”TRIDDY KAT“… just life lessons. Everything from my good, my bad, down to my ugly. I own it all, because all of it made me, Me. Stand in your truth, never apologize for being you, it’sall, You’ve Got! You’re the Cornucopia, the plentitude is…. YOU!
Boy, I tell you, thereās nothing like good memories, especially of you kicking it, growing upā¦would you look at these memories, here (see pics below). God has been good to me and in spite of all the bad, Iāve seenā¦ And, all of the wicked plans, others tried to derive, I still have no complaints. Sure, life has been unfair, but I choose to find my rainbows, regardless. Nothing will ever stop or block my Cornucopia. I let nothing and no one stop my shine, no matter what. I do me. Read the article, “Cornucopia” click link here, Cornucopia I truly know that, “No weapon formed against me, shall prosper.” Can you wait on, Divine Timing? I refuse to waste my life being bitter. I find it amazing how that only bothers, bitter folk. My thoughts on that: “Youāll get over it Boo, step aside, Iām chasing my own rainbow.”
Triddy Kat & the Girls..out partying (in Queens)
I chose to focus my energy on all the good, that Iāve experienced instead. Why? Because Iāve seen much more good in my life, than bad. I like to have fun and laugh and ain’t a soul in this world, going to ever stop me from that. I was certainly shocked, to see how many have tried. I’ve found that keeping that attitude, stirs envy in those, that arenāt happy with themselves. Guess what? That’s on themā¦ And, I leave that right there with them too. You and only you, are responsible, for your own happiness. Stop giving your power away. Read the article, “You” click link here, You It’s not the job you assign to: your spouse or your partner or to your kids or your friends. That’s only your job. You are to keep, you happy. You, are your rainbow. That’s what healing and self-love have taught me. No more, looking outside of me, for what I already possess within. Read the article, “Self Love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love
Triddy Kat…out partying (Charlotte, NC)
My life hasnāt been the same since the day I found out, my happiness was my job only. No matter what you go through, heal, then move on from it…and, never let anyone rush you through your healing process. It is crucial that one take all the time needed to heal. I canāt stress this enough. I have literally, ended relationships, with all of those, that refuse to respect my time for healing. It’s not up for debate. I, do me. I donāt ask permission. People who lack control over themselves, usually want control of others. Idiots. I know what I need, to get my mind right. Donāt rush, reflect and go within. Read the article, “Reflections” click link here, https://triddykat.com/reflections Thatās between you and Source. Once, youāre through healing, get back in the gameā¦and go, Stunt on ’em h*es even harder. Moving forward, towards the rainbow. Read the article, “Move On” click link here, https://triddykat.com/move-on
Triddy Kat partying, Charlotte, NC. For the record:”I don’t wear make up or weave” guys. I’m not knocking those that do, but I prefer easy, up-keep..”Hey, I am what I am, take it or leave it.”
I am a very social person…pictures, speak for itselfā¦”I partied!ā I love having fun but Iām intelligent enough to refuse, to be involved, willingly, in goofy sh*t with mud ducks. Although, Iām a social butterfly, I’m particular, and have no problem, going incognito on negroes, doing too much. If I deem, it’s a must to lay low, I do so until I’m ready to come back on the scene or to party again. I play hard and I take recuperating, very serious, too. I’ve been in Atlanta, two decades but I’ve only been out to party here, ONCE. I have not partied in the A. I canāt help it, Iām particular about who I will party with. I canāt change that. Plus, when you’ve grown up, like me…You’ve literally partied all of the time, from Sunday to Saturday. Therefore; I never feel like I’m missing out on anything. That comes from having a blast growing up. I’ve missed out on no good thing.
I appreciate it all, the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s not personal, it’s all just life. I partied and God has been sooo darn good to me. I donāt complain. I call that finding my rainbow. Me. I am the bag to me. The Divine Feminine is awakened, for she is Goddess and God. Complete, well-balanced and whole…and all know it. Read the article, “The Divine Feminine” click link here, The Divine Feminine My opinion is all that matters to me. Bump the rest. I require no one’s validation because I adore and accept every part of me. My shadow and light. I own it all. I love me baby and I’m free from all of the foolishness. Read the article, “I Am, the Bag” click link here, I Am, The BAG
Triddy Kat …out partyn, stopped for pics with the homie (back home, in Queens)
Your rainbows are your promise, to yourself. Life is good. I donāt care how much sh*t, I’ve been through, I keep it moving. The haters are sick cause I tell ’em all, āKiss my *ss.” My question to you is: What has life sucked out of you, that you need to now, go restock or replenish? Bump your haters. Donāt you know, they hate seeing you, doing you?ā¦so, DO YOU!! Get back out thereā¦go do you, unapologetically. Read the article, “Unapologetically You” click link here, Unapologetically You Nothing can stop you but you. Smile because youāve defeated everything that came against you. Laugh at āem and ask, “Are you big mad or little mad?ā Ha. It’s all good. What are you doing? Youāve healed. Keep smiling, you did it.
GiGi & Triddy Kat… out partyn, taking a pic with the homie…(home, in Queens)
Remember, the life-lessons, learned along the way but donāt you dare regret a thing. It’s life. Apologize when you can, always strive to be better. Have lots of FUNā¦and, please continue to get it inā¦but only for the right occasions with the right people. Self Love is a must people. Read the article, “Self” click link here, Self
Triddy Kat and the homie (at a shing ding)
It’s always about timing, boo! That’s slang guys. Wink.
GiGi & TRIDDY KAT…out partying! We got it in! (back home, in Queens)
Keep shining.
**Update: 3/23/24, I recently moved back to NYC (last summer) and I absolutely love being back home again. God knows, I truly missed the NY. Smile.
Ex spouse & Triddy Kat (married here) partying in Charlotte, NC…(The father of both my sons from the 20 yr. marriage)
** Today, this particular article, titled: “Partying”, will be featured on both of my websites: Triddykat.com and Triddykatsmeow.com celebrating the Anniversary, of me launching, my site “Triddy Katās Meow . Comā in October, 2016. I’ve had people trying to steal it all…from my domain, my name and my intellectual property. I sat quietly, focused on healing and SELF-LOVE ā¦knowing it’s game over, for them. I stand in my truth and got it all back, in spite of jealous thieves, “pretending” to be me but you know what? Nobody can be me, TRIDDY KATĀ® I do Me Unapologetically…so should you all. Keep shining, people. Life is better than Good!
