Webster’s Collegiate definition of the word, “Compassion“- sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it. Most people consider themselves to be compassionate and in spite of what the nightly news shows us each night, they are. What amazed me was so many synonyms containing the words heart. They were: bigheartedness, goodheartedness, kindheartedness, largeheartedness, softheartedness and warmheartedness. It’s fair to assume, one must use their heart in some way, to have compassion on others.
This definition caused me to reflect…when was the last time I’d shown someone mercy? Which was another synonym, listed for compassion. I recalled listening to Bishop TD Jakes preach once about Mercy. I loved his deliverance. He said, “When someone is innocent, they seek justice but when someone is guilty, they seek Mercy.” That completely blew me away. I started thinking of people that I’d shown compassion to. Next, I thought of others that sought mercy from me. Hmm, this word compassion was not as simple as I’d first thought. It’s easy to have mercy on small slights but what about your No’ No’s? Healing restores you. If I was so compassionate, who had I shown mercy to? Then, it hit me. I smiled and understood why this word, has the word heart listed so many times. Compassion is a heart issue. Whom had I helped to restore?
Next, I began to connect why scriptures always mentioned Jesus having compassion on those he healed. It’s connected to your heart. I remembered mercy. A friend was struggling with an addiction. Shame and guilt was causing him to hide it but Spirit had already revealed it to me. I never brought it up, waiting on his timing to address it. Shame and guilt is usually connected to addictions, making one feel bad, convicting them but a loving heart will free them. That’s why compassion uses the word heart so much. No wonder Jesus said, “Neither, do I convict you.” He was freeing them of any shame and guilt. Since, I loved my friend, I had mercy on him. I began to understand, me having mercy on him, would help free him of his burdens. I showed mercy and my friend was no longer burdened.
Who can you set free? That is having compassion. We don’t excuse anyone’s piss poor behavior. Yet; we can still have mercy on the guilty, out of our own ability to love. Love is the only thing real people. It frees both parties…The offender and the offended. It’s just that powerful. We must open our heart and that will help us, set others, free. It doesn’t mean that you are excusing negative behavior but when someone is struggling with something and they’ve wronged you…it is ok, to have mercy on them. They already know that they’re guilty, lest they wouldn’t feel shame and guilt. We can free those that have wronged us, by using our hearts and having compassion. It’s up to you to decide, using discernment, if one should interact with those that have wronged you again but always be willing to free yourself and others of unnecessary burdens. I wasn’t okay with my friend’s actions, but his fear of my judgement had placed a different burden on him. I began to understand it was bigger than me…so, I opened my heart to my friend, having compassion on him, to help set us, both, free. “Who the Son sets free, is free indeed.”
Thirty years ago, I dreamed of things I had no idea what it meant. Today, I understand it all. I have no problem being the only person that likes something. How about y’all? People will talk all day, let them…Keep doing you. I take lemons and make lemonade. I tell those same people that talked smack about me, to kiss it where the sun dosen’t shine. Ain’t nothing stopping me. Slang.
The same people that talked about me while I was out doing my own thing, are all stuck in a box, alllooking just like, “Cookie Cutters.” I stopped giving fakes, love. Once you’re restored there is no need to be mad or bitter. If they refuse to do their inner work, leave them alone. No matter the title, leave it alone. I took my heart back and doted on myself. Best decision ever. Sigh.
When people in life don’t appreciate your presence draw boundaries and give them your absence. Love yourself enough to walk away and shut that cycle down. I’ve had people (family) lie on me & say, “I must be doing something illegal, no it’s just called intelligence, nobility & hard work. I’m excellent with money and I’m 100% legit. I don’t scam, steal or engage in fraud or fraudulent people. I work hard legally for everything…and, I come up with a plan to get what I want, legally. Every dime that I make is legit but haters that can’t get the same results will lie on you quick. So you’ve got to watch them. They are usually the first ones to create rumors and spread lies. I cut ’em off and keep it pushing. I don’t explain sh*t. I don’t care what envious people think about me. They can all kiss my *ss . Make no time for those slandering you. Eventually all will realize, they were lying on you out of pure envy. Explain nothing. Whomever believes them and never asked you, isn’t worthy of your time either.
 “Hit dogs holler the loudest.” But, oh well. Once you’ve earnestly tried to communicate in order to resolve an issue but can not…leave it alone. If no solution is being offered, shut it down or it will distract you, by depleting your energy. Don’t engage any further. Bump them. Move forward.
I have learned to accept all cycles, enjoying the good ones as much as the difficult ones. The cycles are one and the same, different but really alike. It’s still all good. It’s like Jonae Monae says, “Even back then, with the tears in my eyes, I always knew I was the sh*t.“ You’ve got to know who you are, with or without. Who are you? Money can’t buy Integrity and Character, you either have it or you don’t. Who cares what people have to say? It doesn’t hold as much weight as you think. Stop giving people that can’t last a day wearing your shoes, power over you. What they think doesn’t matter. It’s only what you think that matters. Can you face you in the mirror? Have you sold your soul? If not, kick back and relax, everything is going just as it should. Remember, they’re all watching you. It’s not vice versa. Wink.
The oldest, “Azzy” chilling at home. Triddy Kat. cycles. got this built and was a beautiful experience. Nothing from fraud, stealing or coveting. Just honest, legal hard work…so when folks did me dirty, many rejoiced & offered me no help cause they were the ones plotting or jealous..(over a damn house or a car or a marriage) you’d be surprised what stirs envy in those around you, still can’t let that stop you from being you.
Sometimes, I show proof of things I’ve endured, just to shut up, a nay sayer. The cover picture is of my first home that I had built…I literally went to the design center and picked out everything, not bad huh? This was almost 20 years ago. It was so freaking cool. This is the first home I ever owned, it represented a good cycle. The bad was this was during the collapse of the housing market. Most ordinary people, got suckered with adjustable rate mortgages, so I said,“Oh well.” I was forced to adapt and embrace change. The next cycle was here…and there was nothing, I could do about it because I refused to do the work. I refused to look at and see what the Universe was showing me. I was surrounded by people (family, lovers & friends) that did not have my best interest at heart. I continued to ignore the truth until it came in and shut it all down. The truth dog walks you, if you keep ignoring it. The truth came in whether I liked it or not. Shedding light that I had trusted some very foul people. Now, I pay people playing games, no mind.
Tangible evidence bothers nay sayers. It kills them when “Your Truth” (proof) contradicts their lies. Just SMILE at them cause it will all speak volumes for itself. Recognize, life is nothing but cycles, we have to embrace it all. Master the cycles, figure out how to ride the waves. You will be up and you will be down. Learn to expect it. Ride the wave until you get back on the up swing. That’s life. Fulfill your destiny no matter what. I expect happy times, just as much as I expect difficult times too. Expect and accept both. Source hasn’t let me down, yet. I know now, it’s always about expansion, so I endure. The cycles showed me who was truly on my team and who was not. What a difference, knowing the truth has made. It cleared paths to move forward without the baggage. It’s all good. I laugh and love. I’ve learned to love those that are toxic from a distance.
Lots of painting at home was done ourselves…we couldn’t afford decorators. Hell, I was the decorator..I used mostly earth tones Triddy Kat, this was home, cycles. We paid nothing for this house guys, not even 250K..(Teachers) A corner lot, golf course, tennis & pool, community. Can you still be you, when the people around you take it all from you, out of pure jealousy? Told y’all I’ve been through hell, caused by those who were supposed to have my back. Not strangers. How’s that for cycles, life lessons?
Let haters, hate. That’s their job. Your job is to take all of that negative energy thrown at you …and transform it, alchemically. Do you truly know who you are? If you did, you’d stop looking at distractions and learn more about YOU. The negative energy sent at you is to transmute. So what. Stop crying and transform. “Be ye renewed and transformby renewing your mind.“ Stop complaining and go do the work on yourself. When you’re healed you stop giving a damn about a fool you’ve encountered. A lot of people don’t understand scriptures because they aren’t seeking the Creator, wholeheartedly. “Seek ye first the kingdom of God “…that’s the key to life..Source. The word will not come back void. Resist thinking we can fully, live our lives, without Source.
Change the way you think. “As a man thinketh, so is He.” Your thinking can hinder you. Your mindset could be all wrong but nothing is being done about it. If you don’t like your results in life, what are you doing about it? Please know that no-one is coming to save you. That’s a fairy tale… You are tosave you. Pray, meditate, then get up and go do whatever it is, the Creator places in your heart, to do, to change your life. Life will throw us, unexpected curve balls, that’s okay too because it’s the Game of Life…adapt. We all will face starting over at different times in our lives. Go with the flow. That’s evolution, it’s all about adapting. Stop whining and get about your business. Do what you can, with what you have. That’s how you implement the practical and it works. Do your inner work and heal. “Changing your mind, can and will change your Life.” It’s just that simple. Be glad that you didn’t get everything that you’ve prayed for, it would’ve killed you.
Picked out the paint colors (DIY) found the perfect furniture, pictures & got that floral made…got busy, not bad for a novice huh? Triddy Kat, this was home ..cycles. Be mindful, having nice things stirs envy in those around you that don’t. I learned the hard way…that’s why I say cut jealous family/fake friends off. This was from pure hard work & intelligence & I’m excellent with money!
I’ve lost it all and started over, again and again and I still believe and say, “That’s life.“ I avoid and stay away from people that try to make me think: Change is a bad thing because I know that it’s not. It’s inevitable and the very essence of Source. Step outside the box. I do me, unapologetically. There is nothing personal about life, it just is. Stop stressing over what was, it is, what it is now, accept it. Change your perspective. Faulty foundations come down. Be glad that they do. Source’s rejection was certainly the only way to protect you at the time because you could not see beyond the veil . Believe in Love, it’s the only thing real… it doesn’t make you a sucker. The cover picture of this article-that’s my oldest posing in front of our house, before the down swing…Life happens to us, all, people… get over it!
