Predator or prey? Which one are you? Only time will tell. Most swear, they were the prey but if they are honest and look deeper, it is likely, they were truly, the predator. Have you ever had to let someone or something go …and, deep down, you really didn’t want to but y’all both know, that it can’t stay, as it is?
That’s some real challenging mess to face cause they won’t grow, if you don’t release them..you knowing that means “you” have to be the one to do the release…selfishness and ego says,”Hold on”.. but if you hold someone back from becoming great or even greater, Can you really say that’s love? It’s not. Read the article, “Release” clicking link here, Release
Love says, “With or without me, you’re free to move on”…ain’t like that crap doesn’t hurt you too, you just know it’s time..and, that it’s a very necessary process for growth.
Well, I’ve had to do this more than once in my lifetime. It never gets any easier. I couldn’t sleep making that decision. Messed with my peace of mind and all…and, that “clingy energy” I had the most trouble with releasing..I liked being needed. It was my addiction, codependency but it was killing me.
I had to check myself…and, go find balance. Self Love became my antidote. Walking away, when I really didn’t want to was no joke…hell, it was hard but that unhealthy cycle, had to be released…and, it taught me a lot, about myself. It wasn’t pretty. I saw that I needed to heal.
I saw that I was controlling, spoiled and manipulative. I’d do whatever, I felt was necessary to get what I want. I didn’t care who I’d hurt along the way…as long, as I’d reach my intended goal. I thought, “I’m good.” I really wasn’t, I was out of control because I was lost.
The setbacks of a high achiever, is that we are never satisfied. We need new goals to master constantly or we become bored with the mundane in life. One can say, we are actually gluttonous people..borderline ungrateful, but we’re not..we’re just strangely motivated. So be wary of the insatiable appetite. I’ve since learned, it’s to be tempered.
I’m extremely driven but I needed to conquer “temperance and empathy” because I was cold when it came to loving others…now, you can love me but I’m not loving your *ss back. Surface love only but in depth, hell no. Constant betrayal of self, makes one weary of trust.
I can show you some raw emotions but nothing too deep, you ain’t getting beyond a certain point with me or I’m sabotaging us. I was broken, I associated pain with love. I don’t need that sh*t in my life, it will only slow me down and it would create vulnerability in me.
I ain’t about to let you have me weak. I was too foolish to know that love is vulnerability.
Since, I can only depend on me, a weak me, is no good. Whose going to pick me up, should I fall? And, that’s exactly why I fell. The imbalance was too great. I was not allowing anyone in my heart space..that’s imbalanced and its foolish. We all need love. It’s the only thing, real.
I love children because I’m never in survival mode with or around them. I give them all my love & heart freely but no one else. They are the only ones, I make the exception for. Babies and children need that nurturing Mommy mode. I later found out, that I needed that too. I love that side of me and kids, naturally bring it out of me..but it’s my south node, I’ve mastered it already.
I will love you from a distance, but I’m keeping my heart to myself. That way you can’t break or hurt me. See the toxic survival thinking? One can’t live there. It’s an unhealthy space. It allows no place for Source to dwell within, if one’s heart is closed to love. That was the reason for the betrayal in the first place…to get one to close the heart. Don’t fall for that bs. It keeps one stuck, it’s a trap. Using one’s heart, against itself. That’s how one attracts low vibrational beings. That’s why your healing matters. It’s part of one’s protection, along with discernment from Source.
Growing up in a Cold World, in situations, that I had no say so in, created confusion within me.. I had to survive the best way, I knew how…love just wasn’t something, I could afford. Yet, it’s the one thing, I knew, I needed and always wanted. I desperately searched and yearned for love. I finally found it. I, was what I was looking for all along. I gave myself that love I wanted from others. Changed the entire game. I snatched my power back from all of the clowns in my life. Folks disguised as lovers, family and friends. I make ’em all play the back now. I don’t need that fake sh*t in my life. Official tissue, only guys…and Yes, that’s slang. Don’t reward foolishness.
Triddy Kat – I tamed the inner beast…(rocking a bob with no hair color.)
I’m still transforming, it was very painful but it was worth it. Accepting the truth always is. It makes you shed the false self and drop the illusions. Most can’t handle releasing the lie cause they fear they’ll have nothing left to hold on to. I’m here to tell y’all, “That’s a good place to be because it forces one to rebuild on truth or be demolished with the lies.” I had to tame the beast within me…and, go create something different. I did it scared. Self Mastery is a must.
The Universe has blessed me..I finally figured out that Self Love was what I needed. I worked hard, going within and healing me. Then, I finally gave me, what I needed. LOVE…and, trust me when I tell y’all, it’s the best thing ever. It was soooo worth it!!
I wonder how many of y’all reading this, are just like me but just don’t know it yet? I’ll let y’alltell it though. More slang.
Keep shining.
*This was originally, created and written by, “Triddy Kat” on May 21, 2017. Updated, 11/3/21.
Boy, I tell you, there’s nothing like good memories, especially of you kicking it, growing up…would you look at these memories, here (see pics below). God has been good to me and in spite of all the bad, I’ve seen… And, all of the wicked plans, others tried to derive, I still have no complaints. Sure, life has been unfair, but I choose to find my rainbows, regardless. Nothing will ever stop or block my Cornucopia. I let nothing and no one stop my shine, no matter what. I do me. Read the article, “Cornucopia” click link here, Cornucopia I truly know that, “No weapon formed against me, shall prosper.” Can you wait on, Divine Timing? I refuse to waste my life being bitter. I find it amazing how that only bothers, bitter folk. My thoughts on that: “You’ll get over it Boo, step aside, I’m chasing my own rainbow.”
Triddy Kat & the Girls..out partying (in Queens)
I chose to focus my energy on all the good, that I’ve experienced instead. Why? Because I’ve seen much more good in my life, than bad. I like to have fun and laugh and ain’t a soul in this world, going to ever stop me from that. I was certainly shocked, to see how many have tried. I’ve found that keeping that attitude, stirs envy in those, that aren’t happy with themselves. Guess what? That’s on them… And, I leave that right there with them too. You and only you, are responsible, for your own happiness. Stop giving your power away. Read the article, “You” click link here, You It’s not the job you assign to: your spouse or your partner or to your kids or your friends. That’s only your job. You are to keep, you happy. You, are your rainbow. That’s what healing and self-love have taught me. No more, looking outside of me, for what I already possess within. Read the article, “Self Love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love
Triddy Kat…out partying (Charlotte, NC)
My life hasn’t been the same since the day I found out, my happiness was my job only. No matter what you go through, heal, then move on from it…and, never let anyone rush you through your healing process. It is crucial that one take all the time needed to heal. I can’t stress this enough. I have literally, ended relationships, with all of those, that refuse to respect my time for healing. It’s not up for debate. I, do me. I don’t ask permission. People who lack control over themselves, usually want control of others. Idiots. I know what I need, to get my mind right. Don’t rush, reflect and go within. Read the article, “Reflections” click link here, https://triddykat.com/reflections That’s between you and Source. Once, you’re through healing, get back in the game…and go, Stunt on ’em h*es even harder. Moving forward, towards the rainbow. Read the article, “Move On” click link here, https://triddykat.com/move-on
Triddy Kat partying, Charlotte, NC. For the record:”I don’t wear make up or weave” guys. I’m not knocking those that do, but I prefer easy, up-keep..”Hey, I am what I am, take it or leave it.”
I am a very social person…pictures, speak for itself…”I partied!” I love having fun but I’m intelligent enough to refuse, to be involved, willingly, in goofy sh*t with mud ducks. Although, I’m a social butterfly, I’m particular, and have no problem, going incognito on negroes, doing too much. If I deem, it’s a must to lay low, I do so until I’m ready to come back on the scene or to party again. I play hard and I take recuperating, very serious, too. I’ve been in Atlanta, two decades but I’ve only been out to party here, ONCE. I have not partied in the A. I can’t help it, I’m particular about who I will party with. I can’t change that. Plus, when you’ve grown up, like me…You’ve literally partied all of the time, from Sunday to Saturday. Therefore; I never feel like I’m missing out on anything. That comes from having a blast growing up. I’ve missed out on no good thing.
I appreciate it all, the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s not personal, it’s all just life. I partied and God has been sooo darn good to me. I don’t complain. I call that finding my rainbow. Me. I am the bag to me. The Divine Feminine is awakened, for she is Goddess and God. Complete, well-balanced and whole…and all know it. Read the article, “The Divine Feminine” click link here, The Divine Feminine My opinion is all that matters to me. Bump the rest. I require no one’s validation because I adore and accept every part of me. My shadow and light. I own it all. I love me baby and I’m free from all of the foolishness. Read the article, “I Am, the Bag” click link here, I Am, The BAG
Triddy Kat …out partyn, stopped for pics with the homie (back home, in Queens)
Your rainbows are your promise, to yourself. Life is good. I don’t care how much sh*t, I’ve been through, I keep it moving. The haters are sick cause I tell ’em all, “Kiss my *ss.” My question to you is: What has life sucked out of you, that you need to now, go restock or replenish? Bump your haters. Don’t you know, they hate seeing you, doing you?…so, DO YOU!! Get back out there…go do you, unapologetically. Read the article, “Unapologetically You” click link here, Unapologetically You Nothing can stop you but you. Smile because you’ve defeated everything that came against you. Laugh at ‘em and ask, “Are you big mad or little mad?” Ha. It’s all good. What are you doing? You’ve healed. Keep smiling, you did it.
GiGi & Triddy Kat… out partyn, taking a pic with the homie…(home, in Queens)
Remember, the life-lessons, learned along the way but don’t you dare regret a thing. It’s life. Apologize when you can, always strive to be better. Have lots of FUN…and, please continue to get it in…but only for the right occasions with the right people. Self Love is a must people. Read the article, “Self” click link here, Self
Triddy Kat and the homie (at a shing ding)
It’s always about timing, boo! That’s slang guys. Wink.
GiGi & TRIDDY KAT…out partying! We got it in! (back home, in Queens)
Keep shining.
**Update: 3/23/24, I recently moved back to NYC (last summer) and I absolutely love being back home again. God knows, I truly missed the NY. Smile.
Ex spouse & Triddy Kat (married here) partying in Charlotte, NC…(The father of both my sons from the 20 yr. marriage)
** Today, this particular article, titled: “Partying”, will be featured on both of my websites: Triddykat.com and Triddykatsmeow.com celebrating the Anniversary, of me launching, my site “Triddy Kat’s Meow . Com“ in October, 2016. I’ve had people trying to steal it all…from my domain, my name and my intellectual property. I sat quietly, focused on healing and SELF-LOVE …knowing it’s game over, for them. I stand in my truth and got it all back, in spite of jealous thieves, “pretending” to be me but you know what? Nobody can be me, TRIDDY KAT® I do Me Unapologetically…so should you all. Keep shining, people. Life is better than Good!
Two words…Spiritual Warfare.What do you know about it? There is a Spiritual realm, it’s as real, as the Physical realm, we live in. Two more words, Birth Chart. Recognize how important knowing your birth chart is. You probably read that statement and laughed out loud. I would too, until you find out the government has the birth chart on all its citizens, already. Indicating, there is some pretty important information in a birth chart, huh? Another tool of Divination, we don’t use.
You can get one free, online just don’t be so quick to give others, the information, in your birth chart. It’s for you. Guard it. Your enemies can try to use it, to try to stop your destiny. You’re to go towards your North node, you’ve mastered your South node already. A birth chart helps one recognize their true potential…what about their gifts and talents? It’s all there. One can also, find hidden enemies. I’ve found that most of one’s hidden enemies will be someone close to you. That’s why relationships are always under attack.. it’s the easiest way to get close, to what you want to destroy. Always vet anyone coming in your life.
Let’s take it to the hood. Say, two drug lords are beefing over turf. The easiest trick will be to send in a distraction. So, they get a woman or man, that they know you will find attractive, to come in to try to distract you. If you don’t have that inner beast within you tamed, it’s a wrap, you will fall for it. I will speak on me now, I know, I did. When I didn’t know what true spiritual warfare was, I always took the bait. I’ve since studied and learned the tactics of the enemy. They usually come at the target spiritually, first, because most of us us are not aware of spiritual warfare. Now, I share with you guys, to help you out of the trap. That’s why it’s so dangerous being lead by one’s animal instinct. Everything that looks good, isn’t always good for you. Yet, we still fall for it. It’s easy to use, what you like, against you, so get you under control. Attachments, are an open doorway into one’s life. Don’t take them so lightly. It matters.
Remember, the movie,“Heat” when Robert Deniro’s character walks away from his woman? Yet, he still fails the true test. It was not being able to walk away from his woman. The true test, was being able to walk away from his, Ego. He couldn’t let the guy that told on the crew go, which proved to be his fatal mistake. The outside man isn’t the true enemy, that can defeat you, it’s that inner man, you must master. Thyself. So I ask you, What is it that you can’t walk away from? It’s likely the very thing that your enemies, are using against you. They’ve studied you. That’s the purpose of sending in distractions, they’re there, to throw you off track. Remember, what I said about Trolls? Don’t fall for it. Plus, It’s the easiest way to get information on you. Your enemy, needs to study you closely, to locate your weaknesses. Vet all. The last place you’d look, is usually the easiest place to hide them.
Next, if you are familiar with my work, you realize: I purposely put things from one article to another at times, into either blog on my sites. One has to read my blogs to get a full insight. Hint: check both sites: https://triddykat.com and https://triddykatsmeow.com to be up on the latest. That’s slang. Earlier, I spoke on Heat Check in relationships but please understand that a heat check can be many things, that was for that scenario. Any time someone is purposely (covertly) trying to gather information on you, that’s a heat check. Use discernment.
The spiritual realm, is as real, as the physical realm. You must learn to respect it. As soon as you can accept that, you can guard your energy and fight back. Please know your enemy, will likely be hidden in plain sight. Relationships are the easiest way to get to you. I don’t believe in that opposites attract, crap. My opposite was usually, my enemy…And, they did everything to try to stop or delay me, achieving my goals. They were unsuccessful but they still tried. I mean just plain, ole petty negroes, annoying as hell. A true minion. Engaging with them so much, made them easier to spot. Lord knows, I had enough trial and error. For instance, I am free spirited, my enemy would be extremely rigid. Get it? Think on your life, who do you know like this? I guarantee, that’s likely, a not so hidden enemy, hiding in plain sight. But I’ll let you tell it.
Source is ever so purposeful. Don’t punk out when you realize who they are. Meet them head on and eat them and their goofy tactics up for lunch. See it and use it as your strength training. Use that negative energy and their foolery as tools, to help you, build your Spiritual muscle. A class in “Whipping demonic *ss”…Look, you can’t be no spiritual chump. Squad up. Get at these clowns, so they learn to keep their goofy butts, in the Circus. There is no way to avoid spiritual warfare, ever…so learn how to fight back. Source is the conquerer of all.. you’ll need wisdom from Source, always.
People talk about the Ascended Master, Jesus, as if he was a punk. Are you serious? Scriptures says, when they came to arrest him, they came with at least 500 soldiers …That’s a threat baby…. And, they came at night. All cowards move in the dark. The haters, (pharisee) knew that the people loved Jesus, they would’ve clowned arresting him, while he was out feeding and healing people. They knew true POWER cause they themselves lacked it. Jesus was stunting daily, Setting the captives free. Free from what? Bondage. That’s mental illness, disease, broken hearts, lack, addictions, etc. The more come for you, the more power you must realize, you alone possess. I had gang stalkers ..peep, the word gang stalking..Boo, that’s a threat. I open people’s eyes with clarity. Kicking the devil in its head. Step away from confusion, it’s a trap. Jesus said, let your, “Yea, be Yea” and, let your “Nay, be Nay.” That means, speak clearly, stop it with the riddles, clown. Be clear or get the hell on… ain’t nobody got time to keep playing with idiots. People that aren’t clear with you, are there to manipulate you. Period.
Stop playing with low vibrational people that refuse to heal, they entertain demons. Stop sleeping with them immediately, forever. They are attaching entities to you, every single time. Sex is the easiest way to cypher your energy. Mess around and you’ll become a sex addict, from sleeping with their low vibe butts. Hell no. Don’t eat anything they cook or try to serve, that’s dark magic. Keep some cereal or something on deck, if you must, just don’t trust eating anything from them. It will have you all messed up in the head. Always in a state of confusion, a fog. They’re dark, so they prefer to live in a low vibrational state, trying to keep you stuck with them. They are literally “energy harvesting” offof you and feeding off your vitality…You’re their supply. Wake up. Those kind of people, don’t belong around you. Never give them, what they’re after, your essence, your life force. Pull back your energy, asap. I call that, the back that *ss up. A lot of people need it.
Take your energy back. “Let ’em starve.” Stop letting cowards, play silly mind games with you. They know better, that’s why they hide their hands. They’re Naked and afraid. Damn skippy. They are cursed, get out of their way. Let fools, be fools. Heal, so you can stop crying about people that think bs and playing with dark magic is funny. It’s not. These unhealed people are the playground for low vibrational entities and they’re being sent at you ..Keep thinking spiritual warfare ain’t real. Gone have your butt outside, barking at the moon. It’s real people, Protect your energy. No walking in fear, they feed off that low vibe. Squad up, with Source. Shut that mess down. “There’s a war going on outside, no man can run from.” That’s hip hop, from Mobb Deep.
People that are mean on purpose, avoid them like the plague. Let them, go do the work on themselves. Stop sleeping with them, asap. Stay out of mess. People will begin to see how others ,let darker forces, use them, to hate on you. Don’t be evil but check goofy stuff. I call it, “Nipping it in the bud.” That mess ain’t cute. You don’t get to plot on people because you’re mad, at how your life turns out. That’s insane. You made those decisions, you’re no victim. Self correct. Do something about your own life. Stop focusing on others. Work on yourself. That’s what you can control. You can’t control others. Stop that goofy mess. What better person to teach you, than your enemy? They teach you, what not to do. People that seek revenge are shady, leave them alone too, they’re bitter. Bump that ‘tit for tat’ crap. Adults communicate. Stop all that low vibrational behavior, that’s from our messed-up patterning. If you need to apologize, do so, Goofy. Grow your butt up. That’s why I cut people that play all those silly, petty, mind games off. “I’m not in High School, Sweetheart, Find you somebody to play with.” That’s slang, guys.
People playing with your children, as pawns, are working with darker forces, so bump them too, their time is coming. Face and accept what they truly are. Low vibrational, hence the title: “Low lives.” Always take care of the kids. You must heal, so you can stop engaging with people that are foul. Anyone playing with your children, has deep-rooted mental issues. Do what you can to get along and a co-parent, always stay in integrity and character.They’re not your enemy, they’re broken and need to heal, they are their own enemy. That isn’t about you or your children, that mess is strictly about them, only. Do right by your children always, bump all that fussing and fighting, crap. Give what you can, when you can. The Universe honors that. When you get more, give more. Stop explaining, keep receipts.
A loving parent would never tear you down over money, the one that does, ain’t sh*t, face it. Don’t you dare carry their mind games and drama, any further into your life. Leave that junk alone, that’s a headache. Grow up. Stop engaging in foolishness with people that act, like that. They’re not ready. It’s a set up, to make you look bad, bump them. Be with people that align with you. Healed. Expect broken people to act a fool, they need to heal, get out of their way. It can’t change without them healing, first. Accept that or go back for torture, eventually, you’ll get tired of being dragged. Good, now focus on healing, you. You need it, that’s Self Love. People that can’t forgive others need healing too. Accept that too. Take back your power by fixing what you can in your own life, stop focusing on another. That is always grounded and rooted in codependency. Who cares who did what? Move on from them, detach. Your life is about you, fixing you. You will needed those challenges in life to help you level up. Just remember,The spiritual realm is as real as the physical. Respect it. Make time for Source, daily. Scripture tells us, “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so.” So, I say it often, “I’ve been redeemed, Boo, how about you?”
Honey, I’ve found out that a whole lot of people forget to tell others that Source hasn’t forgotten about them. I’m not one of those people. They’re afraid to be preachy, bump y’all. I’m speaking my truth. Who are you? Better go get you some business, so you can stay out of mine. I’m doing me, boo. (More slang). I encourage all, to tell others about the goodness of the Most High because you never know, who needs to hear it. Your story, isn’t just for you. Thats so freaking selfish. Some body, somewhere is going through, what you are going through or have gone through. One doesn’t have to be religious to be redeemed. Knock it off with this dumb, deep sh*t. Worship whomever you chose but tell others about the goodness of God and how it brought you out of a dark place …Brag on the mercy, you receive. I truly believe we do ourselves an injustice, when we forget to encourage others. Nothing that you’ve went through, was to embarrass you. Most of those things, were for others. Get over yourself, dear.
Be you, always stand in your truth. When you know better, you’ll do better. Relax. Forgive yourself now, you’re learning. Things happen. We all fall short. Just fix what you can and work on your ugly behavior. Stop caring about what others think, over what you think..,Do you, but it better align with Source’s standard. Be your true Self. I stand in my truth, no matter what, don’t care who don’t agree with me. I refuse to be shaken. I’m Free….And, damn it, it feels good, baby!! Updated 2/3/23
What do you really know about Chaos? Sure, its the utter state of confusion but do you know how to use confusion to your advantage? If not, I suggest one learn to master utter states of confusion in one’s life…it makes things easier for one to deal with life’s many surprises.
First thing, start out recognizing people that think they know you best are usually the ones causing the utter states of confusion in your life. One must love those unhealed family, lovers and friends, from a distance. Why? Because they are most likely, the agents of chaos in your life. If so, they’ll throw you a surprise party, quickest..(that’s slang for: tryingtooffyou). Remember Osiris & Seth? It can happen to you, too. Scripture warns, “Get thee, out of thy kindred house” for a reason. Be it, jealousy of your gifts…in the physical realm, like your persona or good looks, etc. Or, in the spiritual realm, coveting spiritual gifts..like intuition or creative abilities. Either way, no need to fear cause that’s only power for lames. You can’t stop a hater from hating on you. They see you and want to be you. As we say in the hood, “Let your haters be your motivators.“Use their negative energy to build yourself up.
Recognize the chaos energy and use it wisely. Do you appreciate it? I hope so because it’s what’s necessary to create change. Therefore; Chaos isn’t always a bad thing. Think on your own life experiences, how else would you have left that fool behind? View it like this, had they not created some sort of chaos in your life, you’d still be stuck with them. See them and smile. Those agents of chaos helped you move right along with your life. Your job is to see it for what it is and then, you can transmute it.
So my question is, “Do you recognize, when agents of chaos are being sent at you?”The very fact that they’re being sent at you means: you areextraordinary. Thank them. Chaos comes in many forms. For example, I had exes that I was once crazy about but they were straight ridiculous. Basically, screwing any and everything with a hole. No kind of self control. I’m talking, just down right shameful behavior but when the heart wants what it wants…the unhealed Self, will trauma bond and stick by the side of a womanizer, etc…because after all, broken is broken. I’ve Iearned from Spirit, that a person behaving like that, is sent to use their genital area as a weapon against others, to destroy them. True Spiritual warfare. That person has a Succubus or Incubus spirit attached to them. You will need Divine Intervention to defeat or cast out that type of low vibrational entity/spirit. Call upon Source for strength and guidance. That’s how you shut that mess down. Read the article,”Divine Interaction” click link here, Divine Interaction
In defeating these things, I’ve learned to respect the Astral and Spiritual Realm, just as much as I respect the Physical Realm. Those kind of experiences made me reflect and go sit my butt down. I stopped cheating or engaging in third party relationships. Dark Magic is real, people. Understand that haters secretly engage in it, using it, without your knowledge or consent, etc. I know because it was done to me. I’m speaking from my experience only here…but RA stepped in and shut all of that mess down completely saying, “Not today, not on my chosen.”Nothing can curse, what Ra has blessed. I am a witness to it. Many came against me but none were successful. They had no idea, Ra set them up, to show all what true Power is… And, once Source steps in it’s a wrap. All parties involved are being taught Spirituality. And, why one doesn’t abuse gifts from Source. We’re to honor Source and gifts given…They’re learning that now.
I’ve encountered and endured many trials and tribulations. Yet; Source is Faithful, held me down, each and every step of the way. Never abandoning me because I trusted in deliverance from my enemies and from their use of dark magic (against me). “I don’t know, it’s just something about engaging sexually with any one with dark entities attached thatsimplyturned me off.” I said, in my sarcastic voice. It’s real out here people. It was nothing but the grace of God that allowed me to escape their planned destruction for my life…And, only God knows the depths of destruction, they intended to cause me. I just know, I avoided it by listening to Spirit, faithfully guiding me, whispering, “They are a thief, sent to steal, kill and destroy your abundance, which is: Your Peace of Mind, Happiness and Future. Depart from them.” Agents of chaos will come in many forms, in one’s life. Reflect, see yourself in them. Then quickly, change lanes along with your perception asap.
One will not understand people like that. Take your focus off of them. Their purpose is meant for distraction. Remember, it’s about you and your”unhealed” shadow Self. See that agent of chaos, as yourself. That’s your shadow representing all of the things and behaviors you can’t accept about yourself. Just know, being raised by a codependent primary caregiver…is conditioning that makes one behave in this manner. Most likely, you were raised that way too but it can manifest in lots of different forms, in your life. It’s from seeing people depend on and manipulate others for emotional validity..rendering thy Self utterly powerless. Read the article, “Self” click link here, Self
We grow up repeating and spewing toxic patterning in the lives of all those around us. Now, we’ve become the abuser of power consciously aware of it or not. Making others responsible for our happiness or unhappiness…yet, never connecting, how we’re constantly giving our own power away. You are responsible for your own happiness or unhappiness, never someone else. Emotional manipulation is a way to sneakily control others, instead of using communication, to express ourselves. Example, using the silent treatment, instead of expressing oneself. It’s purposely, depleting others of their mental energy. A favorite, Air element tactic. Hoping to leave one confused. Stuck mentally trying to figure out, what’s wrong? Stop. Go Heal. Who cares what’s wrong? Adults express themselves, children pout. Pull your energy out of that foolishness. That’s emotional abuse. Emotional abusers are agents of chaos, too.
Emotional Vampires aka emotional abusers…They get what they want by lying and manipulating others or instead of being transparent or just saying what’s wrong. I’m now recalling, a very toxic family member, who thrived off of this kind of behavior, then wondered why others refused to be around them. They would do things like, invite someone over for dinner, then talk about how much they ate, etc…once they left. How crazy is that? I’m laughing at it now but that’s actually pretty sad if you think about that. Who does things like that for the attention of others? No one that is mentally healthy that’s for sure.
An agent of chaos does things like this because they’re against, Peace. They’re always warring but it’s covertly done. So, it’s cowardly. Read the article, “Warmongers” click link here, Warmonger I call this, “Throwing rocks but hiding your hands.” Read the article, “Stones” click link here, Stones It’s using the Fire element completely wrong. Always jumping into action but for foolishness. Rushing into things isn’t wise. I have surely done it enough to know. Remembering, that quote, “Being brave is great but being wise is better.” Anyone purposely causing delays or setbacks in the lives of others, is an agent of chaos. Stop focusing on them, pull back your energy from them. Go invest it into healing yourself.
It’s like the womanizer from earlier. Why would you argue with a man (or woman) that can’t control themselves? It’s pointless and you’re just as crazy to engage. Just pull your energy back from them. Don’t engage leave them to themselves. “Let a cheater, cheat in peace.” I laugh at those that behave that way. Now, I realize it was no loss at all on my end. I’ve lost nothing of true value. What are you losing but a headache? Please. No one cares. Leave them to their own chaotic world. Remove yourself from mind games. That’s chaotic destructive energy. That’s not about you. Go heal. Self Love won’t allow you to chase anyone, especially, a provenfool. When you know better, you do better. Period. Remember, be careful on your view of them because they represent your shadow. It’s best to have compassion because they’re reflecting to you…your shadow reflection. Always stand your ground. Stand ten toes down for truth. Read the article, “Compassion” click link here, Compassion and…Read the article, “Stand Your Ground” click link here, https://triddykat.com/stand-your-ground
The agent of chaos will get mad at you lash out, spread rumors…flat out lie on you. Who cares about an angry bird? They are peons. Anyone believing a known liar, is also, a fool. Move on. Be glad. That’s a tough lesson on picking better people to associate with and spend your time with, nothing more but you can’t do that until you’re healed. They power up and anticipate y’all fighting. “Don’t you dare make a jackass, a King.” They make their lovers fight for them. While; secretly laughing at them all. Stop fighting, leave it alone. Go do you. When you’re healed, you will stop engaging in that kind of nonsense because you know better now, “It’s trash strictly for the landfills, dear.“
And, it’s how you, yourself, once behaved until you were healed. You’re so much better than that. Besides, who fights over trash? Please. Leave that mess alone. It’s no longer your dog, so it’s no longer your fight. Always, remember that. It’s about you healing your Shadow…those parts of you, that you and others judged, deemed ugly and unworthy. The true you buried deep within… Shown no forgiveness, love or acceptance. You’re to embrace all parts of you. Every single part of you, requires healing, in order to be made WHOLE…No one is just one thing. Bring you back into balance. Read the article, “Balance” click link here, Balance That means ALL of you. So you’re no longer attracting and engaging agents. Walk in your dominion. Take your power back. Accept the authentic you. What are you scared of? Yourself? Liberation? How can anyone that can’t or won’t accept their true self judge someone else? Tell ’em to, “Knock it off.” Slang.
If you’re a caring and empathetic individual, you are a great river of supply, of emotions. Down side…Unprotected, you are a playground for some very low vibrational entities. They are going to tear your butt up. A spanking out of this world because you’re not in your power. Information is power. Being ignorant can cost you dearly. Creflo Dollar says this best, “What you don’t know can’t hurt you until you find out what it is you don’t know.” How about that Million dollar inheritance and/or property, the estate that the family is purposely keeping secret from you, in order to steal it. Those greedy people, working together to keep you ignorant keeps you from what is rightfully yours because you ARE the true living heir. Oh now, that example ain’t funny, is it? Damn skippy it ain’t. You want your inheritance, bump those that knew and tried to steal it. So ignorance isn’t bliss for long.
Go heal, so you can get your emotional self under control. Get yourself together. Your things will be delivered right back to you because Spirit protected it and revealed it all to you long ago. The Universe works in mysterious ways but it’s ever so purposeful. Those agents of chaos were disguised as family, lovers and friends just so Spirit could reveal to you who can’t be trusted. Pay Cock blockers no mind. Read the article, “Cock Blocker” click link here, COCK BLOCKER That’s why the agents of chaos came to you. To show you, yourself…in others. And, how you may react and act in certain situations under different circumstances. But since you’re healed, you can look and shake your head. You know better now. You are wifey material because you’re whole in all ways. Read the article, “Wifey Material” click link here, WiFEY MATERIAL Plus, there is nothing Fugazi about you. They need to heal, they’re sick but that’s not on you. Read the article, “Fugazi” click link here, https://triddykat.com/fugazi
Take the focus off of any other person immediately. Their job is to reflect your shadow back at you, so you can finally see, yourself also in others. “It ain’t hardly cute, now is it?“ Let Spirit deal with those behaving foolishly out of their greed and lust. They’re the Jezebel Clan for real. Read the article, “Jezebel Clan” click link here, Jezebel Clan Step back, pray for them. It won’t be nice. That’s why Jesus prayed for Judas. He knew ahead about the planned betrayal. Chaos and the agents of chaos will bring about the necessary change for all parties involved. It must. The word will not come back void.
How else was Spirit, going to get you to actually see what you run from? Which is yourself… That agent of chaos running rampant in your life, lets you experience what you do or have done to others in some form or fashion before you were healed… Read the article, “For the streets” click link here, For the Streets How foolish are you, to keep playing: dumb and blind with reckless people, instead of healing? A Glutton for punishment, huh? You keep engaging cause there’s some deep rooted issues within you…that you need to see and heal from. It’s in yourself, it’s not really about them or their lewd behavior. It was always about you. When you know better, you will do better. Good. Leave that kind of behavior in the mud for the pigs.
Royalty knows and carries itself better. It’s always about the bloodline. Preserve it. Recognize who and what you are…If, You were Regal, you’d sure act like it.
Chaos serves a purpose, it changes things at a faster pace but don’t be fooled, it’s not something one wants to live in. No one wants a tower daily. An agent does…(a tower-things crashing, suddenly, in our lives). They live for drama and usually create some sort of crisis, daily. Whenever things are going well, they go create toxicity for adventure. They’re bored. They lack true knowledge of Self. That’s pure chaos. Leave clowns in their circus. Read, “Negro Please” here, https://triddykat.com/negro-please People speaking bad of you, lying on you, slandering you. They are using their words as a form of magic. Stop falling for it. Who cares? Now, go use that same chaos sent at you for your own advantage because life is better than good. We’ve got to Do Better because we know better. Plus, it’s a bad look playing with birds. Period. Yes, that’s slang, guys. We are grown. Put away all that childish, petty and jealous behavior… And, for God’s sake people,“Protect your HEART and your Energy.” It really does matter.
Now smile, you’re killing them softly becauseYou’ve used all of that Chaos Energy, they’ve sent at you, correctly.
You’re beyond Good! Yes, that’s more slang but whatever. Wink.
Remember the idiom, in the popular children’s folktale, written by Hans Christian Andersen: “The Emperor’s New Clothes?” He was out there parading in the nude. He was exposed before all of his subjects. No one said a word, no-one wanted to go against popular opinion. That’s a very stern warning to us, all for going along with the crowd. In not wanting to appear foolish, we say nothing. Therefore; being made foolish. Be mindful, ignoring what Spirit shows you. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and walks like a duck…chances are, it’s a duck.
Open your eyes, there may be something or someone trying to present you an illusion. Don’t let anyone fool you, you can always change your mind. I don’t care what it is…it can be down to a week, before the wedding, if that person lacks integrity and character, it’s a duck. You can do it anyway, just know that that person is presenting you, your lesson. We love to blame the other person and not look deeper at ourselves. They lacked both but we still married them anyway. Then, the lesson wasn’t about them, it was about us. The people we meet are teaching you, about yourself. And, that’s not a bad thing either. Don’t cheat at life. You’ll only cheat your self.
Now, I have certainly entertained ducks. We all will. I’ve also entertained wolves in sheep’s clothing. You’ve got to watch out for the wolves. Those are not easy to decipher because they come at you, purposely, hiding who they truly are. They are clothed and cloaked in deceit. They will study you, beforehand, to see what it is that you like, but something will be off. Your gut feeling will tell you. Your intuition will whisper, “You need to look a little closer here.” That little whisper is from Source. Truth always resonates...lies won’t. If it is their intention to deceive you, Spirit has your back. But you can’t punk out. Accept the challenge and rise to the occasion. Use that scenario to transform. A wolf in sheep’s clothing was sent by the enemy, to test you. Lean on Spirit and you shall prevail. Spirit will reveal the deception to you. But, It will be on you to accept what isrevealed...may sound simple but it’s really not.
What if the wolf is a family member or a close friend or your spouse? How easy will it be to change your mind on that? Could you walk away? I don’t think so. Most of us can not accept truth because that truth revealed, requires adjustments on our behalf. Be it in our lifestyle, title or status, etc…most people can not simply accept truth. We require help to do so. It’s best to go to Source for help because we don’t know the hearts of men. Speaking of men made me think on Hollywood actress, Elizabeth Taylor. Whether we can admit it or not, Liz Taylor knew something about men. Eight Marriages, not engagements, speaks for itself and that tells me, Liz absolutely knew something about men.
That’s why I named this, Liz. I respect Elizabeth Taylor, as an actress but more as a woman. It is not easy to do you while folks talk smack but she did anyway. Who knows what Spirit showed her about herself or her spouses? I know one thing, whatever it was, Liz wasn’t afraid to go for it or get thehell on… and that, I respect. Elizabeth Taylor showed women to live life on their own terms. I wonder how many women actually got that message? I absolutely get it, relationships are to show you, you. Sometimes, you are the wolf in sheep’s clothing. How’s that for truth?
I’ve been in plenty of relationships, married older and younger men. Men are simply men. I know each relationship will teach me, a truth about myself. I accept it, find the lesson, then move on. I appreciate the lesson and those that taught it to me. I don’t get stuck there. I don’t hate any ex. What for? Some of y’all have had a divorce and let the experience crush and paralyze you. Why? What stopped you from love? Mad, hurt, petty and still bitter…Why? Ever notice how Liz always kept it pushing? Who told you that you were going to stay with any person forever? Or that things will always be fair? Change your perception. We are here to self-correct and grow. People leave and things are unfair. So what? That’s life, sh*t happens. That person was supposed to teach you some things about yourself, you could/would not see. Nothing more. Get over yourself!
Everything else is a gift. If it last for a long or short period of time, great. Appreciate it all regardless. The gift is in the lesson. The negative and positive experiences are both needed to evolve. Balance. Read the article, “Balance” click link here, Balance The lesson is about yourself. You are here to master, YOU. Did you get it? Good. How did that become a bad thing? I’m an Educator, learning should never viewed as bad. It’s always about expansion and life. Life isn’t personal. I guarantee, if you change how you are viewing it all, you’ll heal a lot quicker. Read the article, “The Gift” click link here, The Gift
Good or bad, relationships, are meant to help me, learn more about myself. Nothing more. I was supposed to have fun learning it along the way. Not becoming bitter, hurt or living in some deep regret. I regret no relationship ever… if it’s a duck, oh well, it’s a duck. Better luck next time. “But you ain’t stopping me, Boo. You can be a clown by your damn self, must mean, something in me was broken, so I liked clowns at that time. Let me act like Liz and get the hell on.” That’slife people. I trust Spirit no matter what. Do you? I have learned to appreciate the people that taught me the lesson. They were fulfilling their soul contract with me. If I’d skipped all of the challenges, how else could I have learned? How freaking cool is that? Nothing is in vain. What if your enemy was really your best friend fulfilling the contract to help your soul evolve? I don’t have to hate anyone. It’s always a choice. Think outside the box people.
Ask Source for help in seeing things from a different angle. Ascend. Maybe, we just need to change our perception about life. We could have it all wrong causing ourselves, unnecessary suffering. That shift has freed me from giving two sh*ts on what society says, about life, relationships, marriage and the expectations of others. Figure out what works best for you. Stop letting others define you…and, how can any miserable person judge anyone? They’re too afraid to change their own lives. Please. To them, I kindly say, “Excuse me honey, go sit down somewhere.” In life, you can always change lanes. You’re no victim. Shift gears, by changing your perspective. I enjoy life and set my own rules. I’ve found out that attitude bothers a whole lot of suckers. Guess what? I could careless. They watch, Me…it’s never, vice versa.
I like traditions but I’m not bound by them, things that make no sense, will never cage me. I trust myself and Spirit. Others can miss me with their rules and expectations. I do me, regardless...(more slang). I’ve learned the hard way, doing things because others have done it that way, can get you in a lot of trouble. I certainly respect Liz’s gangster all day. Yes, that’s slang also dear. Plus, a woman that can get men to marry her, as many times, as Liz has, proves she knew something all women should know. Isn’t it funny, what society says and deems failure to be? Be careful going along with things that make no darn sense. Learn to think for yourselves.
To me, Liz did the damn thing. Liz was certainly what I call, wifey material all day. Read the article, “Wifey Material” click link here, WiFEY MATERIAL She played by her own rules…and I love that about her. I love knowing Spirit has my back no matter what. I also know that bothers and threatens insecure women and men. That boldness can be mistaken as cocky when it’s not. Read the article, “Cocky” click link here, Cocky I’m sure about The Divine’s love for me. And, because I love me, I can always change my mind. I’m never stuck or trapped. I do things on my terms only. I’m not afraid of people, relationships, failure or love. I heal and move on happily. Oddly, that has bothered a few men in my life. I just shake my head and keep it moving. Who has time for the foolishness? I speak my truth and walk away from liars.
Only one thing is for certain, “You will need to trust Spirit, to guide you through life.” There ain’t no way around it. When a wolf is revealed to you, it’s usually harder to accept because it’s likely, someone pretty close to you. Try not to get stuck in that. See it for what it is. I’ve been through that all of my life. I’m willing to bet that Liz has too. In cases like that, you need Spirit to show you the way out. It is painful accepting truth about the people we love, but Spirit always reveals, whose heart is no longer for you. When Spirit tells you something, listen…please don’t ignore it. You can trust it. Ask for discernment. It matters.
I wish we didn’t care so much about other people opinion’s, but we all do. Liz may have suffered caring about the opinion of others but she didn’t let it stop her. That’s to be admired. Master that same approach for yourself. Never let the opinion of others stop you, from doing what is best for you. Chill on doing things, without integrity. It’s usually attached to the thief…who comes to steal, kill and destroy you somewhere down the line. Spirit is what protects you from the deceiver. How else will you know, when someone or something has studied you, in order to deceive you? You will talk to Source and try the spirit by the spirit. If it’s being offered by the false prophet, don’t accept it. It’s a trap. Spirit has granted us the liberty to switch lanes and change our minds. I too have accepted the false prophets that have come along. When I awakened, I refused their cup. You can literally go in a new different direction. Who cares if others don’t like that you’ve changed your mind. You only owe it to yourself, to be true to you and look out for you. That’s Self-Love and it’s not attached to using others, stepping on people or their feelings to get ahead. Integrity and character will always matter. That’s how one “Tries the spirit, by the Spirit.” Does it align with truth? If it does not, don’t accept it. Read the article, “Self Love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love
A lot of us are surrounded by wolves in sheep’s clothing. If it leaves one in a state of confusion, it’s an illusion. Be mindful. If it’s a duck, it’s a duck. Accept it’s a duck and move on. Come on now, we’ve got to stop playing, stupid. Y’all don’t need me to tell you that. We all know not toaccept a cup from an enemy. “It’s poison.” Wake your butt up, you know when that mess ain’t for you. It won’t feel right, no matter what. Go with that feeling, investigate why you feel that way. Do what you want…just know, “Everything that glitters, ain’t gold.”
People talk about Elizabeth Taylor’s relationships as if she failed. I view her completely opposite. I view her as courageous. She wasn’t afraid of life…that’s a winner, in my book. It doesn’t matter what others say, what do you say? You were given common sense, you must learn to use it. Stop asking others and go to Source. Most of the people talking smack, are the ones living in fear, that’s why they’re talking, instead of doing. Common sense, right? But I’ve found out that common sense, isn’t always that common. Wink.
If it’s not built in integrity or lacks character..It’s not real, people, it won’t last or stand. Good, don’t accept an illusion. It’s a trap. A test to see if you’ll settle for less than what you really deserve. The wheat is being separated from the tare, people. Only accept and go for the real. You won’t be waiting for long. Read the article, “The Test” click link here, The Test In the meantime folks, you’re supposed to be having fun, enjoying and living your life. Hmm, Are you? Smile.
Every time, I hear the song, “Why you so obsessed with me?” by Mariah Carey, I think “Oh my gosh fellas, please don’t let this be you”… and if it is you, make it a point to stop this behavior, the moment you finish reading this.
I don’t know who y’all are talking to but most women go after men for security “first “ and whenever a man stalks us, he’s automatically red-flagged and considered a threat to our safety. Unbeknownst to him, thereby removing himself, off the list of candidates or one who can provide security.
He quickly gets dropped from the “fine as hell list” and placed on the top of our “one crazy nut” list. A cock blocker. Read the article, “Cock Blocker” click link here, COCK BLOCKER
Ok, let me give you an example, I was deeply attracted to someone but because of his controlling possessiveness after the break-up, I decided to cut my losses and never view him as a viable option again. Why? He lacked Self-Control over knowing how to regulate his emotions. That to me, is a red flag. That person comes off as unstable and unsafe. No way do I ever want a relationship with someone that lacks Self-Mastery… because it will turn into a toxic lesson.
He quickly went from someone that I cared about, to someone I prayed would stay away from me. Why, because he became too unpredictable in a very negative sense. He never moved on and he refused to release grudges. Read the article, “Release” click link here, Release I cut off my girls who move this way, also…For me, that tells me there is something extremely dark in them, it’s sadistic.. people that take pride in simply dogging people or deceiving them with revenge, are a turn off…in any area of your life.
Anyway, back to this fellas, you guys can’t harass an ex, stalk her, talk crap about her to others & purposely usher in chaos, then , wonder why she leaves your messages on “unread” or never calls you back. If you continue to manifest negative experiences for her. You’ve now become the guy she associates turmoil and pain with …and, that’s the last thing you’d want a woman, whom you want back in your life, to view you as.
Now, she’s thinking: He might be nuts and she’ll decide to move away from you, literally but silently. In her mind, you’ve lost it and your sense of self. No bueno.
Trust me on this, she won’t run to you for help because you’ve done an excellent job on showing her that you’re a very emotionally “unstable” person…That’s way too creepy to us. Remember, we usually run from creeps in horror films, get it?
Most women don’t care for, the ex that didn’t understand it was over, when it was over but decided to cause her problems…Hello? Who do you know that gets turned on by the person that bullied them? A person refusing to accept a relationship is over is a bully…because they’re now trying to “make” or “force” you to stay in a relationship with them.
Gentlemen, you’re delusional if you think creating havoc, will make an ex want you back. ..if your ex is a woman, it tells us that you’re mentally unstable and we want nothing to do with a man or woman, that makes us question his/her sanity. He/she is not safe to be around.
Please note, that I mostly say men but if you’re a woman pulling these tactics, he’s running from your weirdo butt too… because “Crazy is crazy” …it’s not gender specific. Don’t do it.
Who really wants to be stuck with an obsessed person? I don’t want to be your god. That’s fantasy based. Give me real, real humans have flaws, work on it and we’re good.
That person in the fantasy, doesn’t want real and is considered a ticking time bomb… we start to loathe being near him because he’s become too unpredictable, which means being around him is a safety hazard.
Now, you’ve become a high-risk we’re just not willing to take…we will now do, all we can to avoid interacting with someone that acts like you. You’re becoming that scary dude.
Whatever it is that attracted us to you in the beginning, is being overshadowed by your negative behavior now…Do you see where I’m going with this? You’re losing her because of you. She may have considered giving you another chance but you went too far, afterwards.
You never want to make someone regret ever dealing with you. They will become embarrassed for allowing you into their personal space…making them question their judgement…on how did you get over pretending to be normal and you’re not?
What do you do with bad memories…? You try to block them out, right? So, ask yourself, if how you’re acting now, gives someone a bad taste in their mouth…creating nothing but bad memories of you. Would you, date someone acting like you?
Some people actually think if they cause their ex stress or havoc, it will make her want to come running back to them …wrong! Once we discover it’s them behind the nonsense, we’ll decide to forever drop them like a bad habit.
You’ve just become a nightmare experience that requires no more of our time or emotions.
If you’re guilty of acting like this, this is why your ex doesn’t speak or interact with you…you’re behaving too vindictive, petty or childish.
It’s a turn off and now your behavior is making her look to someone else, other than you because she thinks, “I never knew this guy, look at what he’s become.”
Those doing this need to stop it NOW, I mean Asap!!! Because it’s you, you’re chasing & scaring off the person, you’ve claimed to love. How’s that working for you?
Pull back, let her know you still care but be easy. Think on the things you’ve done to get her in the beginning, that’s where the answer to your problem lies, in that loving courtship but don’t force it. Forcefulness, especially on a guy guilty of hurting us, spells nothing but a “lunatic” to us. How can you hurt us, then expect us to want to be with you? That’s what got us hurt..being withYOU.
Fall back some, let her digest her feelings and gently approach but now, you know to move slow cause you’ve likely mucked it all up. That takes time but if you can sincerely show her that you still care… and that you were only weak but you see and recognize the error in your ways…she will start to miss that part of you that she fell for, in the very beginning. Not this mad man (you’ve temporarily become) waiting in the darkest shadows for her…hell, wouldn’t you run from that?
I know women do this too but it’s much more men, then women, that believe women are property …so they mess up becoming possessive with and over her. You don’t own her, you were to love her…that paradigm of being entitled and ownership of a woman, is guaranteed, to scare, the one you love off, for good.
It’s all in your approach. I’ve been through it all & I promise you, it was their sense of entitlementto me that turned me off most..no one owns me, I allowed you in, to share a life of love with me, not to find an owner…as if I’m property or a pet. You’ve tried to diminish my value and light, by trying to own me…be open, honest, caring and loving or get the hell out of my way. I don’t want what you’re offering because it’s bondage and slavery to be involved with someone, that thinks like you. You can keep your bs offer. I don’t want or need it.
“A possessive man treats his woman as his slave and will lose her because of his out-dated thinking.” Read the article, “Enslaved” click link here, Enslaved
Hopefully, some of you fellas will reconsider your approach…that approach could be all wrong and that’s why she won’t even pick up her phone, to hear you out. You’re too arrogant to see it’s a turn off. Dude, look at how you’re out here acting..like a damn fool. Who wants that? Would you date you? Hell no you wouldn’t.
You could be coming off to her as nothing more than a brute now, you think?
Hey, I’m only trying to help y’all out… sharing what I know worked with me and what didn’t. Any man that refused to be easy. I wanted nothing to do with him anymore because he came off as a narcissist to me because he refused to respect my boundaries. I’m not into men that think they own or possess women. Men that think or believe women are objects, can usually be classified as serial killers. Please, don’t do it fellas. Updated 1/24/23
People often ask me, “How can you just walk away from a 20 year marriage??”
I instantly know from their question, they don’t understand it…and most people really mean no harm, they’re simply trying to make sense of it all.
I didn’t walk away, I began to see…“What I really am, isn’t what I thought I was”…I was wearing a mask and didn’t even realize it. I was conditioned to not walk in my truth, to stay married. Even If my spouse and I had obviously outgrown one another. That’s the facade, it’s conditioning. Never willingly live a lie for anyone. Always be true to thyself.
On the outside, it’s a happy, put together family…but growth must occur or it dies…no positive change makes it become a facade. Read, “Facade” link here, Facade Truth is, we were both fighting some type of addiction, in one way or another…and we were both operating as dysfunctional as hell, by staying together…it had become pure chaos. I was addicted to beingneeded, a martyr. People pleasing. I would place all of my needs at the bottom of the list and do for others, as if it was noble…no, it is isn’t, it’s foolish to martyr myself for my family. Then, I’d turn around and get mad if others couldn’t reciprocate. That’s not a loving person folks, that’s just a jackass. It’s also a form of manipulation.
No one is to make anyone else a priority over oneself. You can help out and but never at your expense of your own well-being. I was helping others out, when the truth was “I was supposed to to get me straight, first.” A lot of women are out here mad and resentful with their men because they gave them their all. Now they’re depleted. Burnt out. Let me ask y’all a question? Who told you to do that? That’s the Toxic conditioning I was talking about earlier. It’s no good. Anything or ANYONE that requires one to abandon, oneself, is not for you. Period. It’s not wise. You can give but you’re always to keep something for yourself. That’s balanced and heathy. I know because I was her, the martyr…and had to work hard to heal from over giving. People pleasing. No boundaries. I hope y’all know having no boundaries is dangerous, it attracts narcissist like flies to a pile of s***. IJS.
Another thing, no one likes to openly discuss how drinking, sexing or gambling, etc. can quickly get out of control…overeating too, it is all “addiction“…and it all kills a marriage. For some reason, in marriages, many treat those toxic behaviors as if, it’s not addiction, just as long as y’all are STILL married, no one really cares about the rest but I do. You were to seek professional help and conquer that ugly behavior, not ask or guilt your partner to stick by you while you spiral out of control. Who wants to be married to an addict of anything? It’s solely up to you to go do the work on you. If they choose to leave, that is their right also but don’t you dare enable anyone’s toxic behavior. They are to present their best selves to you, as you are presenting your best self to them, anything less is a damn joke. Grow up. Stop lying to yourselves.
I felt like this, we either will deal with our bs or I’m out. Our environment had become toxic. Growth was no longer happening. I wasn’t willing to compromise to save face any longer. It had cost me too much. The marriage had now become an “illusion”…a dangerous comfort zone. No one grows in that type of environment. I began to crave change and growth. Read the article, “Change” click link here, https://triddykat.com/change
I had to come back to what’s real for me. Myself. Not the things society or family and friends say are best for me. What Do I say, Is best for me? Did I even know anymore? No. I’d been married so long, I’d almost forgotten. I dropped it all and went in search of me. I awakened. Read the article, “Awakening” click link here, https://triddykat.com/awakening
So I got my head out the clouds of “what was”…and admitted to myself, “I’m where I am today, because that isn’t anymore.” Period. Slang.
I became grateful for the journey and began to thank Source for LOVE. I learned to “appreciate” all of the life lessons that entire experience taught me and then, “I let go.” I walked away because I was losing me. I could no longer afford to give me away. I left to go and heal me. I didn’t ask permission because I knew no one had the right, to think I belonged to anyone. I did what was best for me and took my power back. Compromise wasn’t working. Most turned on me offered no support at all. I didn’t care…who needs friends and family like that anyway? And so, I gave them all my ass to kiss. I only owed it to me…to be my best version of self. No further explanation required. I had to have my own back now.
Walking away doesn’t always mean that you don’t love someone. For me, it meant coming back to truth…letting go of out-dated belief patterns that are full of fear and false obligations to everyone but myself. That just didn’t work for me anymore. I am not here to martyr myself for anyone, so I won’t.
I was the product of my own belief patterns… stuck in an old paradigm. Read the article, “Patterns” click link here, https://triddykat.com/patterns/
I was no longer aspiring for what I know truly makes me happy and fulfilled. I’d settled for comfortable and mundane…I’d become discontent, yet I wasn’t doing anything about it…why?
I looked at my life, to see what I needed to take control of ME again and then decided, I’d change direction…and I stepped out on faith in Source and myself, to take a new path. I changed lanes.
I want real, no more fake…no more Fugazi allowed in my life. If I discovered, it was fake or insincere, I dropped it all. I would rather rebuild it all, then to knowingly build with and on lies. Read “Fugazi” here, https://triddykat.com/fugazi/
I don’t care if that meant starting all of my life over, alone. I’ve done it before. It didn’t kill me, just bruised my ego. I’ve got my own back, now. I don’t need anyone’s permission to do me. I am enough and with the Creator of all holding me down…I can’t lose.
Never be embarrassed about what you have or don’t have. Starting over can place you back at zero. Guess what I’ve discovered? Peace of mind is there also. Smile, it’s only a season. Keep going. Plus, none of that makes you, YOU. Keep doing you, unapologetically…be bold. Read the article, “Unapologetically You” link here, Unapologetically You
Sure a divorce can wipe you out, financially…because of corruption, mine did…But I create regardless baby, I always bounce back. So can you. Let fear stop nothing. Any “unchecked” addiction in a family unit, will take it all from you too. It will wipe you out. What’s the difference? Pick your poison. Most of us weren’t born into riches and are fronting anyway, just to keep up the facade. To hell with that. I want real. I’ve lost it all too. I got right back up and went to go do it all over by myself. Bump haters. Let ’em talk and take notes. Read the article, “Let ’em Talk” click link here, https://triddykat.com/let-em-talk
My goal was Freedom. Liberation. Coming back home to my Self. Sigh.
The freedom to be true to thy Self, with no limitations in Self or in LOVE because I know, that Love is the only thing real. I’m me, like it or leave it, I don’t care…I walk in my truth, baby. Now that’s self love, boo. Read the article, “Self-Love” click link here, https://triddykat.com/self-love
I finally did it…finally, I’d faced myself..and that’s how I found MYSELF. Hot damn!! Read the article, “Ntwadumela” click link here, Ntwadumela
Life is better than Good! Smile.
P.S.- Something tells me, There’s a whole lot of people that needtohear this message today. Updated 1/22/23
